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K said:
Cherok33.....sorry you are going through this. It can be difficult for sure.

It seems like there is something in the air. I've been dealing with things with one of mine for the past few weeks. It's due to a reaction to medication...amazing how much devastation something can cause so quickly. My youngest ended up in the hospital a few days ago (on her birthday).

Tam - I feel for you. You want to be compassionate and helpful but no one wants to be dealing with the fallout of neighbor's issues.

I've been hearing all sorts of odd stories. Weird things going on right now.
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I'm so sorry to hear your child landed in the hospital! I hope she's doing better! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

Yes, so much seems to be happening. Not good! Pray!!
 
Cherok33 said:
Wow Bliss!

You have gone above and beyond the call of duty as a good and decent citizen.

He is so blessed you found his wallet!

I think you should either mail him his wallet or drop it off at the police station. I don't know how that works dropping an id in the mail...
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Hi Cherokee,
I'd wish the same for me if l lost mine.

It was mailed. While driving, I found a postman who told me he'd put it in an envelope and mail it for me when back at the station. The wallet had a folded dollar bill in it so wasn't concerned about the cash - more his student ID and D/L, (cards l cut up), and his lovely leather wallet. I felt relieved...it actually felt weird having someone's personal lost wallet in my pocketbook...l truly feel some things carry people's energy.
 
Cherok33 said:
Today has proven to be a tough day for me to get through and I think the hardest part is still left to deal with

being a parent of a grown child is so hard sometimes especially when you cannot help them.

Heartbroken and sad
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Why do you feel you can't help him? Hope he is ok. Is he liking the military?
 
Tamstrong said:
My neighbor came knocking on my door after 11 pm last night asking to use my phone; her husband had beaten her up. When I got home last night around 10:30, I saw him marching across his yard and stomping down the street, but didn't think much of it because I'd seen that from him before. I was a little surprised that it was my door she came to, but I let her use my phone to call 911 and let her cry on my porch for a few while she waited for the police. I feel for her and her little girl, but it was so awkward since I really don't know them.

I'm nice when my neighbors say hello or whatever, but I pretty much avoid them otherwise. The dude has a temper, and so does his brother who happens to live on the other side...evidently I'm surrounded by families with domestic violence issues, and it sucks. The other brother was arrested several weeks ago, so it's been pretty quiet on that side since then. I typically don't hear as much from the other house (she even asked me last night if I could hear anything from their house), unless something happens outside and then it'd be about his brother's wife calling the cops on his brother. The guy got into it a few months ago with the cops in front of my house when they'd arrested his brother for an incident, but I'm not aware of the police being called on him until last night. Of course, I'm a private person so I pay as much attention to their business as I would want them to pay to mine. I don't know if he went to jail or not since he wasn't there when the police came, but I hope the woman and her daughter can find a safe escape from the situation.

I kinda feel like a jerk for feeling this way, but I hope her coming to my door doesn't become a habit & doesn't lead to issues for me & mine with her psycho husband. I hope he doesn't make an issue out of it if he finds out I let her use my phone, but if so, he better not fuck with me. I don't want it to go there.

This shit makes me miss living in the country where there are no neighbors for miles.
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What an ass her husband is. Loser.
 
K said:
Cherok33.....sorry you are going through this. It can be difficult for sure.

It seems like there is something in the air. I've been dealing with things with one of mine for the past few weeks. It's due to a reaction to medication...amazing how much devastation something can cause so quickly. My youngest ended up in the hospital a few days ago (on her birthday).

Tam - I feel for you. You want to be compassionate and helpful but no one wants to be dealing with the fallout of neighbor's issues.

I've been hearing all sorts of odd stories. Weird things going on right now.
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It's been a full moon this past week.
 
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I'm feeling very meloncally as well. Just read about the Philando verdict. I fight the urge on a regular basis to pack up my family and go. It's being written bright neon signs that black people simply aren't welcomed here.
I also am curious to see how this country would fair without its biggest consumer demographic.
 
Cherok33 said:
I'm so sorry to hear your child landed in the hospital! I hope she's doing better! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

Yes, so much seems to be happening. Not good! Pray!!
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Thanks so much! Actually my son was in the hospital too. I guess I didn't say that part. So 2 kids in the hospital in 2 weeks. NOT good!
My daughter is MUCH better, just have to really watch her now. My son is much better than he was at the worst of it, but it's going to take some time.

I keep telling the other 2 NO more hospital visits.
 
The Dark King said:
I'm feeling very meloncally as well. Just read about the Philando verdict. I fight the urge on a regular basis to pack up my family and go. It's being written bright neon signs that black people simply aren't welcomed here.
I also am curious to see how this country would fair without its biggest consumer demographic.
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We're not welcomed anywhere on this planet. At least not in large numbers. Not as a race. There are no safe spaces for black americans.
 
samson1701 said:
We're not welcomed anywhere on this planet. At least not in large numbers. Not as a race. There are no safe spaces for black americans.
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All I can say to that is travel fam because that's not true. There are many places that are far better for us than here. Where its not culturally acceptable to murder citizens.
 
The Dark King said:
Until it doesn't. No matter how successful I personally become I know it's not all about me. That kind of thinking destroys economies and more importantly swaths of people
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The vast majority of the so-called black community including the majority of its females do not care about intelligent hard-working black men, so I don't cry crocodile tears for those who would sooner cry over a lowlife than me. If a black-owned business provides a good or service at a competitive price, I will support. If it doesn't, I won't. No special treatment here, no going an hour out of my way to spend three times as much.

How does the world look from that high horse?
 
Bliss said:
Why do you feel you can't help him? Hope he is ok. Is he liking the military?
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It's not my oldest. My oldest son isn't doing superbly in the military and has advanced already to e4 and up for board for e5 this month.

It's my youngest son (19) who just finished a great freshman year. He's home w his friends during summer break and found trouble landing himself in a sticky situation. Nothing myself or anyone else can do but stand by. The kid lives in his o n world and it scares the hell out of me.

Totally heartbroken
 
K said:
Thanks so much! Actually my son was in the hospital too. I guess I didn't say that part. So 2 kids in the hospital in 2 weeks. NOT good!
My daughter is MUCH better, just have to really watch her now. My son is much better than he was at the worst of it, but it's going to take some time.

I keep telling the other 2 NO more hospital visits.
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I'm so sorry!!! Terrible :(

Hang in there and I pray they both get better soon. Especially your son!
 
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Cherok33 said:
It's not my oldest. My oldest son isn't doing superbly in the military and has advanced already to e4 and up for board for e5 this month.

It's my youngest son (19) who just finished a great freshman year. He's home w his friends during summer break and found trouble landing himself in a sticky situation. Nothing myself or anyone else can do but stand by. The kid lives in his o n world and it scares the hell out of me.

Totally heartbroken
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Great update about your oldest!

Cherokee, l feel your angst in your comment for your youngest son...it's tough to feel helpless, carrying so much love for him. As long as he knows you are there for him unconditionally, he is not alone in his troubles. Hopefully he see's what you see for him, and the situation he's in works itself out. *Prayers*
 
Beasty said:
He said " not in large numbers" he has traveled too. Easy Germany remember? Take plenty of ginko fam because 20 years from now your memory is going to be like dust.
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The Dark King said:
Lol try Canada or France it's amazing
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I lived in the Detroit area. Canada was my second home. Literally. You could get into the adult clubs at 19. So, we were there all the time. Also, visited France when I went to Germany. And, it was definitely better. I could easily see living there. No question about that. And that was over 30 years ago. But, make no mistake about it; you are still a black man. You have no safe spaces. And, that's fine with me. I expect it. And, when I encounter those instances where I am treated truly as an equal, I live in that moment and enjoy it. In the meantime, I do what little I can to make the situation better.
 
The work/life philosophy is what intrigues me the most about those places. I probably would deal with the cold for an opportunity to live in France, Canada not so much. I think that you would need to be fluent to live in France tho. I'm gonna start back working on my French soon enough. I have not decided to leave yet but I'll say this, Florida, Cali, and Texas are the only places I could ever see myself living in the states. If those places go south, I'm out of here for good. The rest of the states can kick rocks.
 
Cherok33 said:
It's not my oldest. My oldest son isn't doing superbly in the military and has advanced already to e4 and up for board for e5 this month.

It's my youngest son (19) who just finished a great freshman year. He's home w his friends during summer break and found trouble landing himself in a sticky situation. Nothing myself or anyone else can do but stand by. The kid lives in his o n world and it scares the hell out of me.

Totally heartbroken
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Hope it all turns out well!
 
Beasty said:
The work/life philosophy is what intrigues me the most about those places. I probably would deal with the cold for an opportunity to live in France, Canada not so much. I think that you would need to be fluent to live in France tho. I'm gonna start back working on my French soon enough. I have not decided to leave yet but I'll say this, Florida, Cali, and Texas are the only places I could ever see myself living in the states. If those places go south, I'm out of here for good. The rest of the states can kick rocks.
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I had a chance to live in Hamburg, Germany. But, I could not leave my mother by herself that long. At the time I wasn't sure if I'd made the right decision because the opportunity was a serious game changer for me. But, my mom passed two years later, so at least in my mind, I made the right choice. Had I stayed, I would've lost those last two years with her.

But, the moral of the story is Germany and France are better for a black man to live. Better than here. But, don't expect utopia. And, the more of us there are over there, the more their racism comes to light. However, as I stated earlier, that was 30 plus years ago. So your mileage may vary. It could be best thing since Wakanda for you or it could be a total, euro redkneckin', racist paradise. I have no idea after all these years.
 
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