What Type Of Person Do You Attract?

jmoney42

jmoney42

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Topic probably has been discussed before so apologies if it has. Had a conversation with the old man the other day that prompted this.For me it’s a polar opposite so I guess opposites do attract lol. There’s usually one, two max, mutual interests/hobbies but everything else is night and day. Surprisingly works well though.
 
The type of people or guys I tend to attract are the unserious ones. No goals, no ambitions, no drive. All they want to do is smoke and drink, two things I don’t do.
 
Makena said:
The type of people or guys I tend to attract are the unserious ones. No goals, no ambitions, no drive. All they want to do is smoke and drink, two things I don’t do.
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I’m sorry to hear that :(. It can be tough in this day and age especially for someone in their 20’s like us to find somebody who doesn’t partake in those activities. Feel like I was born in the wrong generation at times.
 
Makena said:
Right?! LOL, so do I. When I tell people that they never believe me.
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One and the same lol I usually get hit with a :eek:o_O:confused: when they actually see I don’t do those things. Always felt if that’s the only way I can have fun I have some problems I need to deal with first. Actually had some applaud me for it. Guess listening to the old heads kinda worked that time
 
jmoney42 said:
One and the same lol I usually get hit with a :eek:o_O:confused: when they actually see I don’t do those things. Always felt if that’s the only way I can have fun I have some problems I need to deal with first. Actually had some applaud me for it. Guess listening to the old heads kinda worked that time
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Yep! I know exactly the looks and reactions you mean. And I’ll never say it out loud to my parents right now but they are the ones who led me to not needing those things to be myself or to have fun
 
I always seek out partners who are like me, dry humor, workaholic, analytical types, but am often approached by emotionally needy people, which often leads to unhappy relationships. Surprisingly though, my therapist thought that I should date people who are different, because too much similarity to me would be boring. I'm not sure I agree.
 
orejon4 said:
I always seek out partners who are like me, dry humor, workaholic, analytical types, but am often approached by emotionally needy people, which often leads to unhappy relationships. Surprisingly though, my therapist thought that I should date people who are different, because too much similarity to me would be boring. I'm not sure I agree.
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Last part of your post hit home. I’m extremely low key but stay attracting high energy people which I’ve been told is to “balance me out” but idk about that. Maybe in the short term possibly, but long term I can’t see it working for me.
 
jmoney42 said:
Last part of your post hit home. I’m extremely low key but stay attracting high energy people which I’ve been told is to “balance me out” but idk about that. Maybe in the short term possibly, but long term I can’t see it working for me.
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I try my best to put out vibes of kindness, compassion and respect in hopes of attracting the same in return. But apparently what I’m selling people don’t want to buy right now. It’s like guys want a party girl, or one they can drink and smoke with and that
Is just not me
 
jmoney42 said:
Last part of your post hit home. I’m extremely low key but stay attracting high energy people which I’ve been told is to “balance me out” but idk about that. Maybe in the short term possibly, but long term I can’t see it working for me.
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Same here. Implicit in that statement is some idea that you need 'balancing'. Perhaps we are just fine the way we are, no?
 
Makena said:
I try my best to put out vibes of kindness, compassion and respect in hopes of attracting the same in return. But apparently what I’m selling people don’t want to buy right now. It’s like guys want a party girl, or one they can drink and smoke with and that
Is just not me
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I used to feel the same but the more I went through life I realized it was the universes way of telling me it wasn’t the right time and to continue to focus on making myself the best version possible. Old man always tells me when it’s time to happen it’ll happen, he hasn’t been wrong yet. Right one will come along for you. I remember being 21 and not really identifying with the options my age range for similar reasons. In my case they improved as I got older (late 20’s now) as I naturally moved to different circles.
 
orejon4 said:
Same here. Implicit in that statement is some idea that you need 'balancing'. Perhaps we are just fine the way we are, no?
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FACTS! As long as I’m happy with what I see in the mirror everyday and the energy/vibes I’m putting out to the world I’m perfectly fine and have friends/ acquaintances that would agree.
 
jmoney42 said:
I used to feel the same but the more I went through life I realized it was the universes way of telling me it wasn’t the right time and to continue to focus on making myself the best version possible. Old man always tells me when it’s time to happen it’ll happen, he hasn’t been wrong yet. Right one will come along for you. I remember being 21 and not really identifying with the options my age range for similar reasons. In my case they improved as I got older (late 20’s now) as I naturally moved to different circles.
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I totally get that. I am so different than most people my age. Feel more like an outcast half the time but I’m comfortable in my body, my skin and what I am and am not into. So that at least gives me comfort
 
I don't attract anyone because my life is work and even if it wasn't I live in a country full of sloppy sissies who would never approach me because of my resting bitch face and distain for the white man.
 
jmoney42 said:
Could feel the flames coming through the screen lol. Sorry to hear though. For some RBF isn’t a deterrent to approaching
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Haha. You don't have to be sorry :) Australian men just aren't the same as American. I was shocked at the difference when I went to America, it was eye opening lol. Australians are very reserved people and don't really engage with eachother or approach eachother unless they're drunk at a bar or club lol.
 
beccaomecca said:
I don't attract anyone because my life is work and even if it wasn't I live in a country full of sloppy sissies who would never approach me because of my resting bitch face and distain for the white man.
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Again with the resting bitch face. You're the second woman on this forum that has mentioned having that. It must really be a thing.
 
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