We've all heard the expression once you go black you don't go back but ds that go the sam for white women? Once you've had a white woman is it impossible or nearly impossible to be mainly attracted to black women?
If a person lust for a certain type of individual it could be true. I can't say I'm solely attracted to one type of Woman.
I'd have to say Not Exactly! Many/most of us men are just mainly attracted to Women. Period, end of story! You must factor in the male genetic trait, which tells us, we just want to plant our seed in Women, and find it very difficult to discriminate, simply on the basis of such small details like skin color, that is, when it comes to being with the opposite sex. :tonqe: Realize, Men are from Mars.
Go White, You Are Right I will simply say there is much truth in that statement "you go white you hit it right". Then again, it depends on ones life history and what he determines is "right" for him. Unfortunately, in this society we all have been programmed to see white women as the ultimate prize.
I don't know about done right but for me, when making love with a white women, I love the color contrast. I get a very strong sexual urge that I don't get with black women.
"Done right" my ass. It sounds like anything else is wrong. The once you go black thing is stupid to me too. Never had a white woman, so I can't say.
There are plenty of ww with biracial children now with wm so I don't believe exclusivity is the order of the day.
My view As a white woman, I do feel more comfortable around black men who appreciate black woman too and have not made a blanket choice. Why? Because I need to know that he has not switched to ww because of bitterness or resentment. Some people just have a preference (I can relate to that!) but I want it to be a choice borne from a positive perspective (appreciating something) not a negative one. I remember a time a reasonable enough b man approaches at a ragga club I was spinning at after I'd finished. It sometimes happens, they are kindov surprised one of the few white women in the club is on the decks and are curious about it. That's fair enough I guess (I used to do it alot during law school, augh, I wish I had time now! I'm not a talent by any means but could at least get the crowd moving) So we are talking, then he proceeds to try and get my number by bitching about black women..blah blah blah. I just looked him straight in the eye and said "what makes you think that would impress me? I hate to think you get ahead in the rest of your life by climbing on top of others as well" I understand bad experiences, I've had alot of them too with black men and white men. I think it's a poor approach for a black man to approach a white woman by bitching about black women though (and yes, I am white well medditerranean and slavic..!) Just because it has a negative vibe and there is enough negativity in the world, I wanna try and balance it out with sweetness and light and all the good. I've been all over the world and also find no matter where you are, these men are sometimes the ones who think you will assume they are special just because they are black and expect you to be impressed by them, or ignorant.. I understand just having a preference though, and that's all cool. That's a totally different thing, I just worry about anyone who can completely dismiss a whole grou phew, ok rant over!
I don't believe that hating black women means preferring white women. If that is how people on this board feel, so be it. I think a person can prefer white women for positive reasons without being negative towards black women.
Agreed now I will admit when I first came on this site I was a bit too negative towards BW but that's because it was he internet and I was eager to finally be on a site full of people who felt similar to the way I felt I apologize for that but I also will admit I'm crazy about ww
Good Post E.L.! It takes a big person to acknowledge where they may need some improvements, and you demonstrate much character in recognizing such, which is highly commendable. I can respect that. Welcome! Not to mention, I for one, and probably many others shared these same feelings the same as you, when we first came here too, so who can blame you.
