WLC, People deal with trauma in different ways. Some people talk about it, are open and just put it out there. Some people hide it, deny it and it eats them up inside. I for one don't think there are many men who would make up a story like that. Maybe I am gullable, but I really don't think so. I suffered a very serious trauma a number of years ago. I tell people about it. Not right away but I DO tell them. Just because someone was abused/molested,raped etc., does not mean they are damaged goods. If they have dealt with it, had therapy and come to terms with it, they can be just like everyone else. I for one think it is a brave thing for him to tell you. What you do from here on in is your call.
wow, Ive reported you for being so rude (doesnt matter to me or Saty). I get your point - dont read if it bothers you. I was connected with the guy before he told me and I am not asking your opinion - your opinion is clear and very narrow-minded. Good luck!
oh and just to be clear: I had best ever sex with him EVERY time, but not THAT time (after he told me). and thats why I tried to avoid the subject so it diesnt change abything between us. Anyway, I stop posting - it clearly bothers men on here that i talk openly about my sex life. He also was my first bl man. Oh well - I will have to live and see if I ever have such great physical chemistry with bl OR w man!
WhiteLondonChick, I just want to say: I'm sorry that after my post, this guy started saying crap about you. I meant my post to be about how some people will sometimes use other's compassion against them -- but that obviously requires the person in question to be a compassionate, decent person, as you appear to be. I see nothing whatsoever wrong your actions in this scenario, and I'm sorry the thread took an ugly turn after my post.
:smt039:smt039 Thank you, Vanilla. I do think it was brave of him. And yes, he didnt tell me at once, but at a point when we knew each other quite well. he did have therapy - he told me that too. Proud of you that you overcame your drama and thanks for sharing!!! :smt006 Now I better go and delete some details of my physical attraction to the guy!
hey! dont be sorry! its true and there are probably guys out there who lie about these things. And I am sure this guy would have posted that cr*p anyway! so completely not your fault and besides I am a big girl so can defend myself!!!
guys, whoever is interested - I met with the guy yesterday - we had a long nice chat and will try to make it work. I AM SO HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!! :smt051:smt045
oh I think we have enough cute bl guys in UK! but thanks for the suggestion - I will keep it in mind!
