do IR relationships last longer than same race relationships ? are there any stats on that ? also why do you think IR relationships are better or are they no different ? are there more challenges or is that something the racists try to drum up to keep IR relationships down ?
There are definitely more challenges, and that being the outside world when you're in IR, but if the two people in question are compatible and are strong enough to withstand the outside negative forces, they can be in a happy healthy relationship. (As we've seen displayed here). I think in any relationship, be it IR or same race, it boils down to chemisty and compatibility.
I guess, out of the reson that IR relationships under more fire than within the same race, that these people are bolder. Fire from outside keeps you closer, if you and your love are really compatible. To have an IR relationship is an adventure itself, you have a lot to understand- what keeps you busy and it won´t get boring that fast. But differences can also separate you (i.e. family), what can make it very difficult, if you have to make a decision between them. At the end I think the problems are different- if it works depends on many factors, which are not always in your own hands- and no, the chance will not be better or worse.
it seems the challenges can make you closwer to ur partner. i guess it would seem that if you decide to get into an ir you put a lot of thought into it along with the fact of what type of person they are and is it worth it ( sort of speak). me personally if the person is a wonderful person it would seem the challenges would be small. also just the fact of yesteryears it would have to be a secret love affair like in the 80's but after the start of the 90's it started to be ok to come out the shadows and be ok. am I accurrate in saying that ? Im sure there are other opinions to str8ing me up on that
I agree with the statements made by Christine... Even in 20-10 I notice the social obstacles that comes with IR dating/relationships in a lot of locations, especially in the states. Families still hating because they are still holding onto the misteachings of the past, etc. So it often takes 2 wonderfully minded and determined people to invest time and understanding into forming a union that is IR. And with that being the foundation, it can lead to a strong bond of commitment and dedication, in the primary base of respect for the mate's fortitude.
Yesterday I´ve seen the statistic of a longtime Examination of marriages here in Switzerland: Best chances for a longtime marriages are: - same cultural background - he is around 5 yrs older than she´is - she is more educated than he is - none was divorced Worst Chances for a longtime marriage or best chances for divorce are: -different cultural background -she is more than 7 yrs older than he is -her income is more than 50% higher than his -he is divorced
It´s very true, you can know people for yrs and they will never be as close as some one, you maybe just know a few months, but you had to hold together and to fight together- to trust each other. It´s a very different kind of friend-or relationship.. On the other hand you cannot fade out your surroundings. You have to find a way to live peaceful. I have no idea, how it is in the States, but here in Switzerland, it´s no problem and should it be one, I would move, there are sooo many beautiful places all over the world.
i wonder why there was no mention of money in the "Best chances" listing but it's there in the "Worst Chances". And vice versa there is no mention of education in the other though there is in one. Hmmm... sounds like there is more work to be done in this study.
I have to agree on that.. It doesnt sound right - a study might not give correct results depending on how it was conducted. More studies please
I think IR are better, particularly bm/ww We frequently come from differing family histories, which gives us more to talk about which is great in a long term relationship. We frequently get to live life with a wider view of the world, for the same reason. We are sometimes the targets of bigotry, which allows us the ability to battle-test our bonds early on, making us stronger. We tend to seek each other's comfort and affection more than we seek to vie for power or play relationship games common to our own backgrounds. We have similar obstacles in life, and we make great allies and friends. We look fantastic together, and we make uncommonly attractive, gifted children. We're awesome in every way.
i with you . I can see that because we may have similar backrounds. here in america BM are on the lowest totem pole. we get discriminated alot ww had to fight for thier rights and still doing so. bw had a disdain for bm. Im not sure how wm view ww so im staying away from that but i will say we have just as much in common versus differences
I guess you misunderstand it. The statistic is just for the best and the worst circumstances. It´s not a manual.. everything in between is open, up tp yourself, but if the conditions are as mentioned in the worst case scenario- then you normally have the worst chance...what does not mean that you have to fail automatically. It was an observation of couples over a long time and the similarities were noticed.
I agree with you on that. Also, I feel like IR relationships have gotten past the superficial barrier of skin color which leaves more room for understanding your partner emotionally than just physically. Which if you aren't compatible with someone emotionally then the rest doesn't matter.
Well I can't speak for all WW and BM but my experience with BM and the biggest reason I love them is they are good to have fun. BM seem more about enjoying themselves then what other people think. I'm the type of person that loves to dance, laugh and just have fun in general (I think a lot of ww are like that but just pretend not to be because white people have made it seem like that's not right) and the WM I have encountered (this may not be all wm) aren't like that. They feel they have to just sit in the club and look cool. Like I said I can't speak for all people but those are my experiences.
Hmm I need to hang out with your white people because the white people I have been around have been I guess you could say stuck up. But like I said its personal experience.
