At least you're honest. Does make me wish I had buckled down more. Maybe wouldn't have gotten into an ivy but I would have gotten some scholarships and wouldn't have any debt. Should have listened to my parents more than my damn friends
at least YOU'RE honest on the real though...i believe that with enough work and dedication, many of us could have gone anywhere...if we REALLY wanted to there's nothing 'genius' about studying more, doing homework and conducting independent research to supplement what you already receive
it's not, stop trippin sure some doors have closed as we've gotten older, but some are still open you just need to stop bullshittin and apply yourself there's a lot you could be doing right now
A human being, no matter what stage they are in life, never stops learning. Education is your salvation.
Ha marriages stopped being about "love" when medical and financial benefits get involved.Though, "arranged" marriages like many of them over in the far East last much longer than the ones in this country unfortunately.
Agreed, hence why I will most likely not remarry. I have been in love and have had a much better relationship outside of marriage.
love is love the institution of marriage is overrated (as a symbol of commitment), unless you count the financial benefits statistics on marriage are shit...many people don't really believe in that 'til death do us part' at all
Agree 100%. "Marriage" is a piece if paper...it doesn't make a relationship valid. And with marriage stats as ridiculously depressing as they are, it's hard to view it as a forever endeavor.
it's not people are treating marriage like a joke more and more as time goes on some social theorists believe it's due to the changing culture of America, where individualism is becoming more prominent. no longer are people willing to weather fire and ice with tremendous gut and endless resolve. more people are like shit, once this life gets tough or boring, i'm out for something better. which is odd considering 'marriage' is supposed to represent a family. how many people do you know 'divorced' their cousin..or brother..or sister...or mother...for whatever fucking reason? from my understanding, marriage was supposed to be like adding more family to the one you already have.
I think it is easier to weather the storm out when not married because to choose to be with the person noncontractually.
He is right though there is this stark individualism that makes people rather selfish where sticking something out doesn't seem in their best interest. People feel like they don't need other people anymore and you can see it relationships. Maybe marriage/relationships need to be more open because for a lot of people who step out or just plain leave its sense of feeling trapped and/or a need to experience other people.
possibly or people have just think about themselves more than ever. I noticed that women on here who talked about getting divorced and being annoyed at how their exes still pined for them. Its like there is zero compassion because it didn't dawn on them that these are men that they started families with and spent a large chunk of their lives with yet it was surprising dudes were quick to hold on. Its this culture of not only do my needs come first but its pretty much all that matters. I'm not judging these women because I personally didn't live their lives but there's far more me me me than we we we going on in this world now.
You say you're not judging, but you are. Pretty easy to do considering you've never been married. There's a difference between being pined for, and being stalked; Being still cared for, and being harrassed. Until you live in those shoes, don't pretend to understand. I think it's really easy to sit on the sidelines and judge others, but try talking to me when you've played the game, struggled every second with your decision to get out, then get judged by others for doing what you think is best for you/yours. People act like getting out of a marriage is a ho-hum decision, based on purely selfish needs. I'm sure there are some youngins who do that, but for most adults it's an incredibly painful decision, which is not taken lightly. Ending a partnership that was intended to be for life is the hardest decision one may ever make. IMO, your post seems to trivialize that.
By your own admission you said you had never considered part of the reason he was holding on so tightly was because of how long you'd been together and what you had built and I never said it was easy but lack of certain considerations does illustrate a growing meme/cultural perspective of what's best for me above all else. Not saying its wrong, not saying you aren't with in your right to think that way but it does speak to yet another reason why this marriage thing is going down in flames.
Who the fuck cares why he's still holding on? At the end of the day, his reasons for holding on don't change the fact that the marriage is over. At a certain point, showing too much "consideration" can give a false sense of hope that something may be able to be salvaged. You don't get it...and you won't get it because you've not been through it. I'll refrain from making any additional comments because I have no desire to argue with you about something you have no experience in.
