So today I went out for lunch with a friend for some drinks, I ain't no baller so the first thing I do is search for drink speacials in a establishment. We choose Primanti Brother's and soon as you walked in their's a big ass sign that says "All Bud Lite's on Friday in September are $2.50 each" I order two and a pretty petite blonde bartender with a tight ass body rings me up for $8 n some change. I point out the sign to her that advertises the drink special and she says "Ohhh yeah.... it is Friday huh...." She goes consults with her manager about it anyway then finally rings up my order correctly. The manager says to her "Yeah every Friday in September Bud Lite's are $2.50 each", she replies back in a snarky attitude "I don't usually work Friday's..." That's it, no apology, no my bad, no care in the world. I've been speaking with a few older quite wise experienced gentlemen as myself and they all share the same experiences. Women owning a certain expectation of forgiveness for flaws that men are never afforded. Thus, there is no urgency to correct wrongs, be it: appearance, intellect, finances, life choices. Overweight women: My thyroid is out of control, I had children etc... Poor women: I am a singe mother doing it all by myself, credit is far to easy to spend etc... Single women: I'm a strong independent women, Love me for who I am etc... Homely looking women: Beauty is on the inside, Looks don't matter etc... Baby Mama's: He told me he loved me and wanted to do right... (meanwhile he's in and out of jail, no fucking legal job) The list is endless, but women seem to wallow in the ability to inset an excuse for every little thing that a man would never get a pass for. Man this movie got it right... [YOUTUBE]hbA-KAgj-ko[/YOUTUBE] I ain't trying to hear all that blah blah blah, bullshit sob story where your trying your best to absolve yourself of responsibility, just say I'm sorry and keep it moving.
Ok Northy, here's some accountability: I'm fat because I'm too damn lazy to work out. And it's easy to stay that way because there are guys out there who like fat chicks. I'm poor because I don't want to work 3 jobs. I work 2. But I pay my bills on time and I have decent credit. I have a POS house & car and cheap clothes, but I have a house and a car and clothes. I just can't afford any more than that. I have no idea why I'm still single. Maybe I come across as desperate. I don't know. I certainly don't wish to be single and I don't pull that "I'm a strong, independent woman" crap. I am strong and I've been forced to depend on myself, but that doesn't mean I chose that. If I'm homely, that's God's fault. Except for my weight, I work with what I have and make it look as good as I can. Nice hair, nails, I buy clothes that fit and flatter. No baby mama here. Had my one and only with my husband. Anything else?
He's just trollin' bc the girls had a pow wow about how men date lazy nowadays and he's gotta throw some butthurt back bc he knows its true.
How so? "Self-attribution bias occurs when people attribute successful outcomes to their own skill but blame unsuccessful outcomes on bad luck" Did I not take responsibility for most of my shortcomings rather than placing blame everywhere else?
I probably used the wrong expression or word. It seems you attributed all of the characteristics that he pointed out to yourself, when he was talking about women in general. But, hey, if you think they all apply, drive on.
Well he posed the question, presumably to the women on the forum so I decided to show him that some women can be and are accountable for their actions. Plus, I happen to fall into most of the categories he listed. Lol.
Which begs the question, why is either necessary on a site dedicated to black men and white woman relationships in which on the banner is a beautiful white woman arm draped around some studly black dude both as happy as the day is long. Wouldn't all this anti-male, anti-female shit be more topical on some feminist and male chauvinism forum somewhere? Can we at least pretend that we don't despise one another? .... please?
Who exactly do they owe an apology to? No one owes you or I an apology for living their life how they've seen fit. Man or woman...everyone's responsible for themselves. I have absolutely no sympathy for women (or men for that matter) who play the victim when it comes to their excuses. Own up to the shit you're doing wrong and fix it...or shut the hell up about it. Whining gets you nowhere. I'm not disagreeing with your post, I just think it cuts both ways...men and women. At the end of the day, neither gender is getting a pass with any of it...we all know excuses when we hear them. And ultimately, who the heck cares? If you're fat, or homely, or single, or settling in life by being some random baby mama holding out hope that dude is going to change, that's on you. It's not my business to police your bad habits.
I don't think any of us despise each other (ok. For some on the board this holds true and I'm sure there is no love lost. I'm not going to like everyone and vice versa). It's just us extending conversation into our personal lives. Which in my opinion shows we actually have deep bonds and a huge respect for our fellow posters. Myself I would have never talked about the heartache with my brother if I didn't feel like I had connection to members here. I would t be here at all if I didn't. I have equal amounts of fondness for my favorite posters but in general I can also appreciate what each one brings to the over all whole of the place The ass clowns on the other hand.. Besides.. My reply to Ches was mostly snark. If we can complain about how fake some men are then northy (whom is one of the ones on My List) can bitch about how rude some women are.
SHUT UP NORTH...lippy is fabulous...I don't have an excuses because I don't need any...so there:smt019
I think you painted all women with a broad brush which is unfair. I dont think ALL women are like that so maybe you could have said some women. But you are on point for example (a) a man dumps a woman and he is an asshole a woman dumps a man he is STILL an asshole, (b) a man cheats on a woman he is a dog, a woman cheats on a man, he wasnt good in bed and the list goes on an on.
Yes, for the beer thing, if she was wrong, she could've said, "sorry, I usually don't work on Friday" But if I make you a sandwich with mayo the way you always liked it... just for you to tell me it's not how you wanted it, that you wanted mustard instead.... no more apologizing there, that's not my fault when you didn't tell me you wanted something different. (I don't mean you-you, lol. Just in general). If I got the beer wrong because I didn't know, I'd say sorry for that. However, as someone that's bent over backwards for a guy that I always spent my time apologizing to (mainly for stuff that wasn't even my fault!)... I refuse to do that any more. It's left me in a habit of always saying sorry... if I'm walking and someone bumps into ME, I'm the one that says sorry. I'm not going to say that I'm sorry that I'm poor because I want a white collar job in Newfoundland and that it's not exactly accessible for me as a deaf person. I'm not going to say sorry for being a strong independent single woman, when it's taken me a lot of work to get to this point. But sure, if I'm working at a bar and I get the pricing wrong and it's actually my fault, I made you wait, etc... I think a "sorry" is warranted. Regardless if she doesn't typically work on a Friday, the sign's still there, and she probably read it as well.
Which is well and good, except as APPIAH pointed out the words that we often choose to use end up painting the sexes with a broad brush.. "Why you women try to justify......" as opposed to "Why some women"
