[YOUTUBE]dcMYOx45uhY&feature=youtube_gdata_player[/YOUTUBE] nicki bails out her brother from jail. he was accussed of rape. would you bail out a family member?
This. I wouldn't bail someone out just because they're family. My brother was arrested when I was like 22 (he's much older) and called me to help get him out. I didn't do it. I knew what he did and I knew he needed to understand the consequences of his actions. Now we're not talking prison, we're not talking extended stay, but he learned his lesson and he's done better. For me, this question isn't black or white.
yes, no matter the circumstances...let the lawyers sort out the rest...the jails are not safe and I would never forgive myself if something happened to a family member that asked me to help them
Depends on what chargés and circumstances. There are chargés i would not bail out regardless. Clear murder, terrorism and rape for example. IF there are unclear issues with such chargés, i probably would. But i would bail out Tarchi bear for anything:-D
Unless I saw my family member actually commit the crime, there's no way I could see letting a relative sit up in a rat trap like a jail cell when I could get them out. If they're convicted of a crime after a trial, that's different. But in most cases if I had the funds, I'm probably gonna try to get them out. Some people may deserve to be in jail, but most folks are better off at home and letting the system figure out their guilt or innocence. Nobody learns anything in jail, except what a hell hole it is.
Indeed I totally agree. My brother also used to run on the wrong side of the law. Lucky for him, it was during his juvenile days. I remember my dad getting him out once, and made the statement that if he gets arrested again... He's not going to get him, and I knew my dad was serious. Family is family, but right is right, and wrong is wrong. It really depends on the person, charges etc, but being a relative would not be a deciding factor. Yup! Definitely.
Definitely. My brother did something wrong and he paid the consequence. For him, the short time away helped put things in perspective and he's better since. He's still my big bro, still loves me to pieces and he never questioned why I did what I did...he knows it was for the best. If time were turned back, I'd do it again. I love my family with all my heart but I couldn't have lived with myself had I got him out and put him right back in the situation he came from.
I think that can make a big difference. I think on your first arrest bailing them out pretty quickly isn't always a bad thing, especially if it's something relatively minor, and people do get picked up on bullshit charges every now and then. After that first time, though...well no one's luck is that bad. From my experience if someone keeps getting arrested then the problem is them and not law enforcement. When that happens some time in jail to make them realize that you aren't always going to come riding to the rescue can cause people to make better decisions going forward. I actually have a lot of respect for people who don't bail out their loved ones right away. Sometimes that tough love is what people need to get their shit together.
From what I've seen gender and race play a role in who's willing to post your bond. Black women are the most likely, white men the least likely. If the person posting your bond is a black woman (mom, aunt, etc.) she will be blowing up the jail and the lawyer's office trying to get you out. If it's a white man (father, uncle) well...there's probably a jumpsuit that will fit you. And don't be self conscious about your shoes because everyone looks bad in orange crocs. White guys don't bullshit.
:smt043 WM are definitely like that with their sons but not with their daughters Thank God I've never been in a situation with police or being arrested or anything but if I ever was...rest assured my dad, step dad, brother would alllll come to save me lol. Dudes are of the mindset that us little women always need saving. Sometimes women need that time away too, for perspectives sake...especially if she's fucking il bad enough that she's been carted off to jail lol
No. Didn't bail my mom out and haven't spoken to my sister since she murdered her boyfriend. That's one of the biggest problems in the black community, blacks condoning negative behavior of family members simple because they are family by bailing them out or playing the same sorry broken record on the news "my baby was trying to do the right thing, getting his ged, putting in applications" Fuck outta here
I was referring to how wm typically behave with their daughters/sisters. Sorry for what you and your family have gone through north.
Agreed! We hear it so much, and it's always something like.... He/she is family. Even when in conflict with others... Many think you're supposed to throw support behind a relative (and go against the non-relative) no matter what. In my mind... It's about right and wrong, and if my relative is wrong... I'll call it as I see it. Just that simple.
