I’m looking to see if others have had this same experience as me. Insight. Help. Guidancex what happened. Not looking for approval. I already said that
Ok. I have not had that experience. But that’s not even the point. Your marriage is in a bad place and you are projecting on black men as solution for the problem.
She is a he, probably named jake, steve, jim, or bob and is working through his grimey ass fantasies in this forum. Thus, making this some of the saddest shit I have seen so far this month.
You have to ask the 40-ish American white women why that is since they're the ones who are "suddenly" interested in BM
It’s sad but on the other hand her fantasy doesn’t have a single thing to do with my life and the reality of wwbm relationship so it doesn’t touch me too much. People have all types of sick weirdo things in their head, if only one could see it. Thankfully one doesn’t.
There are plenty of cuckholding sites out there, swingers sites, etc. I'm sure there are probably fetish sites for those who want to fetishize black men too. It may be difficult to understand, but these forums are for those women who actually love black men. I think you will find that all but maybe 1-2 females who post on here fit that description. To the other conversation about those who near 40 and suddenly seem to go into some mid life crisis and go for black men....I would think that would be dwindling given that more women who are getting towards that age range would have grown up in a time when IR was more acceptable. (I'm not talking about the whole cuckie bullshit - that's a different dynamic)
Back in the days of AOL, I have met a few white women in a similar situation. Their reasons were varied but one did say that her interest in black men was out of curiosity, which she had permission from her husband to do this. Others were sneaking around. One young woman stated that her husband joins in the sex act. He was bisexual. I remember seeing a profile on one woman. Her reasoning was to have sex with a black man as a "last hurrah". She was an RN, I think. Another woman was a flight atttendant. She was single. I think curiosity is natural. I don't went to an interracial offline gathering for the first time in 2005. I felt glad to see other people who have a genuine desire to be with black men and black men who desire to be with white women and other women of a different race or ethnity. We sat around and introduced ourselves to each member of the group. I was intrigued and I ask many questions such as how they became interested in the lifestyle. A couple of men stated that they met white women while they were serving in the military. One guy said that he lived in a mostly white neighborhood and he talked to and dated white women exclusively. I was glad to meet these men and women in this lifestyle. I felt relieved to know that I was not alone in this particular lifestyle. The issue of married women mostly rings alarms because we in this lifestyle are rather cautious. Because of the fact that the woman in question was just collecting data or on the rebound and other things. I remember a racist white man came into an interracial chat room and spewing his disgust over black men and white women. I asked him what the problem was. He stated that his wife left him for a black man. I apologized to him about his story and assured him that none of us in the room want to break up a marriage. He calmed down. The man was heartbroken and he felt the need to lash out. He simply wanted to talk to someone because he felt lonely.
I knew this guy who worked with this chick who was married and she decided she had the hots for black men. She ended up getting with someone to play on the side and then had a couple of 3somes with the guy and his friend. She got knocked up, didn't know which one was the father (her husband had a vasectomy) she stayed with the husband and they raised the kid. Ok I just have to laugh at your use of the term "Lifestyle" Gorath.....for most of us, it's not a fetish, cuckholder/swinter stuff, or like BDSM, being gay or trans. I'm sure most of us (especially those of us who are older) have dealt with being someone's "experiment" at one point or another. I certainly don't consider my preference for black men or that I have an IR family to be a "lifestyle". Lifestyle typically depicts something outside the norm.
That story, my goodness. I don't know if I should congratulate the husband or pity him for his lack if backbone. As for the word "lifestyle", that's exactly what I thought. I'm living a life not a lifestyle.
