Im not sure if we have a thread like this (relationship gripe thread) but if we do Im sorry. Anyhoo, here we go. I figure we are all fam so we can talk.. I feel we should be able to get information from eachother so If you have a question or a situation lets talk in the context of the title of the thread. Rule 1) give enough detail so we can give the best answers to your situation but dont write a book or just ask a brief question. rule 2 ) we are mature adults so be nice , honest and not mean. be respectful rule 3) have fun. show love. rule 4) you can post articles on love and relationships. ---------------------------------------------------- I will start as an example: UUUHHHMM. It is hard for me because Im not dating right now.....Ok. here is a question.... Are women more comfortable with a man approaching them in a store ( or some fashion like a bar, resteraunt ect... you know he just introduces himself) versus meeting them through a friend ? which would you prefer ?
I'd rather a man approach me themselves. Going through a third party or a friend isn't that bad, but I like a man that will take charge of a situation even if it means he might be going out on a limb.
aaaw I like a strong, funny, charismatic, social, intelligent, opinionated, spontaneous, sexy.....just to name a few. I can't STAND passive men. Drives me insane. Mainly because I can walk all over them and that's my number one turn off. :smt019
Steph why are beating around the bush just "Andrae you're the one" lol On a serious note I hear a lot of my female friends talk about wanting a guy that's opinionated is that the same as putting a girl in her place?
I'd rather a man approach me directly. I think there's less pressure one on one than when other people are involved. I don't like the match-maker crap, & I don't like other people all up in my business.
agree tami...!!! i had a gf who tried to set me up with her husbands best friend & he just wasn't my type at all. the night was uncomfortable and embarrassing. a man approaching me because he's attracted to me always wins
Of all important things in love, I've always approaching to beautiful women to take charge of the situation myself to asking them out. Granted, I may have nervous heart to skip a beat... I still be man myself. I just can't be afraid like an child who can't take it from here. Sometimes, we of all have to be adults. That's how ladies likes when Men comes to approaching them. Despite that I'm partially deaf..I sure know how to take charge of the situation myself!
A couple I know asked me if I was interested in meeting a single friend of theirs & I said no. They later invited me to dinner without telling me he'd been invited too. It was not a pleasant surprise! It was awkward & humiliating for both of us. He wasn't my type, and they had led him to believe I was interested in meeting him. It didn't take him long to figure out the truth, and I felt bad for him. They weren't being fair too either of us. They won't be trying that crap again!
It can work both ways. If you have a friend that knows a nice guy and you viewed him first and asked about him and he checked ok...then that would be cool i guess because you friend screened him first. then you would be in control. on the other hand , I like approaching a woman but you would be totally blindsided if you dont catch the S.O.C's . I like the chase. It would be cool if a woman hollered at me first. If she had a friend that screened my on the sly then I would be flattered. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Hey ladies, what is the worst thing a guy has every stated in trying to meet you ? Myself I like to keep it simple. Im very str8 forward at times. I even done things suchas I would see a woman approaching me in the city on the side walk and I would just stop her and say something off the top of my head. I usually have a 20% success rate doing that. You get shot down alot because you hear Im married thank you and they have that funny looking smile. I just bust out laughing.
would you rather tell your girl hey who is that guy ? whats up with him ..yadda yadda so introduce me. thus you would be in control ?
I had a coworker give my number to some guy who asked about me & he called me (I'd never met him). After I said hello, he told me his name & how he got my number. Then he asked me if I was into phone sex and said he hoped so because he had already gotten 'started'! I was so shocked it took me a few seconds to react to some stranger telling me he was jerking off over the phone, but of course, after it sunk in, I hung up on him. He showed up at my job the next day making a scene because he was mad at me for hanging up on him. Then he had the nerve to ask me out after all this & he didn't get why I didn't want to. He was crazy.
There's a slim chance that if she knew the guy, I'd ask her what she knew about him, but if I wanna be introduced, I can do it myself.
I have been set up before and I hate it. First, if I want a woman I will ask her out myself. Second, I hate other people in my private business, when you agree to meet someone through friends they become a part of it, 'my attitude is you are not a part of it, so get out of it'. Third, I am confident enough to trust myself, I am very selective, some of my friends and family members think its arrogance, cockiness, conceit, whatever but, you don't hear me complaining about my exes (unlike them), I found the woman myself if it does not work out I am forced to look in the mirror and see if it is something I did and improve. Fourth, if she is not worth my own effort then she is not worth it anyway.
that is a big down side because they want all the news and stuff. the upside is that they can become good screeners for you. women versus men. who are the best screeners ?
