Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?

Is it possible to truly be in love with someone the second you lay eyes on them, because that is what happened between me and my sexy angel Danica....(she basically sat on my lap and said let's talk about the first thing that POPS UP LOL, I'll let ya guess what POPPED UP LOL)

Have any of you fallen in love at first sight and do you even believe that is possible? I know people say it takes time to know someone, but have you ever felt that instant connection where from the moment you meet them they make you laugh and smile and there is no awkward shy phase where you are trying to get used to each other? It feels like you've known each other for years. I always thought it was impossible too, until now....

 

i'm not buyin it

I have felt instant attraction, (hot bucky naked attraction) but love??? Not too sure about that. I know lots of people who do believe in this, but what usually happens once they get to really know said love? They break up! Maybe it just hasn't happened for me yet. I think it would take a very special man to win me like that. I just don't think anyone could tell me all the things I need to know about the person I will/won't love at first sight.

 

No, definitely not. But something else odd can happen which I wouldn't call love at first sight. When I first met my first love, it was nearly a year and a half before we became an item, but there was a really sizzling flirtatious chemistry between us: I wasn't really aware that he'd found me attractive (although I did him), but still felt an inkling of something there which wasn't quite just sexual. Again, when I met my uni boyfriend I was instantly drawn to him in more than just a sexual way, finding him very charismatic and exciting to talk to. Now, when I met my current boyfriend, I relived the feeling with my first love: we instantly joked and found a level of conversation which was unusual when you've never met someone before, and there was a strong flirtatious energy between us. Not quite lust at first sight because that's something different again, and this is more to do with personalities and wits pulling together - but not love either. Odd.

 

Yes, I do feel it is possiable. IMHO, love is not one emotion. Love is dynamic (evolving, ever changing). Two people falling in love at first sight wont have the same love as two people who have been married for 10 years and have kids together, but it is still real love.

 

First you would have to define what love is. That definition is a subjective one. For me,

Love=Time*Commitment*Respect*Communcation*Trust*Understanding+Passion

I think you can meet someone and almost have an immediate understanding of where they are coming from on an emotional, mental, spritual, and philosophical level. Even though you have never met them, you recognize them and they you. That understanding is the beginning of love, or love at first sight.

Through that understanding and further communication, you begin to build a passion for each other, a respect for each other as individuals, and a trust of at least thier emotional responses. All this may lead to an actual committment. Without commitment, it dies. If you continue to communicate, time deepens the commitment, the understanding, the respect, the passion and the love. You've got to spend time with each other or the love just dies.

 

Do I believe in love at first sight? Well yes, if what you mean by love is instant attraction or chemistry etc. But here's a better(?) question: should one rush life-altering decisions based on these impulses? e.g. go get married right away because "we just met, and it felt sooo right"? .... OF COURSE NOT!

Instant attraction is good. No, make that great. Its a wonderful place to start from, but its always recommended to give things some time, and see if what you have is indeed love, or plain lust (in your heart though you WILL know if it is love or lust). Besides, he/she might be an sicko/axe-murderer, only time will tell.

Then again, I've heard it said that it rarely takes time to fall in love. In someone's estimation, if it will happen, it usually will happen sometime between the first meeting and 2 months of meeting/dating. If it doesn't happen after 2 months, it probably never will. I've found this to be true in my experiences.

You mean, she sat on your laps the first time she met you!? :shock:

 

The definition of love in itself is a very complex one. Part of the philosophical task in understanding personal love is to distinguish the various kinds of personal love. According to my definition , love at first side would be almost extinct. Love is feeling of deep affection for someone who has tempted emotionally for seeking devotion and regard. It would be impossible to do this if you meet a person for the first time. To me, love is formed when attraction, wish and submission to action combine together in human.

However, i believe the better word for what Pey is asking would be "attraction". Is there attraction at first sight? Absolutely. Attraction is the thing between people which leads to possible arousal, friendships and maybe romantic relationships. Many factors leading to interpersonal attraction like propinquity, similarity, familiarity, reciprocal liking, and physical attractiveness.

When i met my fiancee, it by no means was love at first sight-at least to me :lol: - but there was a certain physical and sexual attraction and connection. We only said a few words to each other but as you all know, most of the human communication is non-verbal. K.Abercrombie said that we speak with our vocal organs but converse with out whole body. Im sure i could relate to that. From the sudden attraction at first sight and the brief 15 minutes with my fiancee, a lot of things were sparked. I wont say romance but i'd love to think our emotions were involved. We didnt really fall in love until about 3 months but there was chemistry, passion, understanding and the most important one, communication. We hung around together, underwent lengthy discussions on the phone and in person and got to know each other better which i believe leads to limerence. Limerence is a "state of love" personified by a blending of passion, intrusive thinking, longing, uncertainty, and hope. From limerence, you advance to love and possibly romance and unions.

 

Personally, I'll take limerence over love any day. :wink:

Also, I would say to an extent, I believe in it, because your instincts have their advantages all the time. Sometimes you can act on something that makes you feel nervous with anticipation about a specific event or occurrence, and then gain the best of that particular situation out of it, finding out that it was, indeed, a good idea. Sometimes love works this way, depending on whom is involved in the attraction.

So, in conclusion, I will say that even though it's easy for your emotions to fool you from time to time, your instincts may be better for you to listen to.

 

Very VERY nicely put... I am co-signing with this one

 

No, attraction or interest yes, but real love takes time - requires nurturing of exploration, understanding, knowing, acceptance, freedom and trust.

You might think you have those right away, based on intense attraction, but if something bizarre happens, you have no resources to handle it so "poof" its' over.

 

I feel you can find yourself attracted to someone within seconds but it's not love [real love anyway].
The more time you spend with someone, the more "life" you live together with them... Love can start to happen then.
I know that's not all romantic and all but it is real.

My two cents.

 

love is an experience.

what happens is rather LUST AT FIRST SIGHT

 

i believe in love at first sight
:smt060 :smt060
believe it happened with me and my fella
it was more than lust

but i think your only likely to believe in it if you have experienced it

 

Good deal!!!
Maybe one day for me or maybe I think I know too much!!!

 

It's ok to believe in it as long as you don't discount the other ways to fall in love, because you could miss some really great potential partners!!

 

rere

yeah I believe