Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

The Dark King said:
One of my friends just told me that she thinks one of her friends is interested in me. Guys with dark skin are her fetish.
I know she meant well but that annoys me. Is it only a fetish when one person is black and the other is white?
Never heard someone call it a fetish when someone likes a person with tan skin or someone with light eyes or brown hair. Smh
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Fetish has come to mean an attraction to anything a person considers outside of their normal.
 
Ches said:
Fetish has come to mean an attraction to anything a person considers outside of their normal.
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Well that's the thing this woman usually dates dark skin black men so its not outside her normal so dating black men period must be normal. See what I mean?
 
The Dark King said:
Well that's the thing this woman usually dates dark skin black men so its not outside her normal so dating black men period must be normal. See what I mean?
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Then she just has a deep attraction to darker skinned black men. It's not a fetish.
 
The Dark King said:
One of my friends just told me that she thinks one of her friends is interested in me. Guys with dark skin are her fetish.
I know she meant well but that annoys me. Is it only a fetish when one person is black and the other is white?
Never heard someone call it a fetish when someone likes a person with tan skin or someone with light eyes or brown hair. Smh
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I've heard of it being referred to as a fetish whenever the interest is inordinate and prurient, which to me sounds like more than a preference. For example, thinking a woman's feet are nice as opposed to a foot fetish, toe-sucking, toe ejaculation, etc. Just preferring dark skin is not by itself a fetish, but if she starts using "big, black..." sorts of language, it would sound like a fetish to me.
 
orejon4 said:
I've heard of it being referred to as a fetish whenever the interest is inordinate and prurient, which to me sounds like more than a preference. For example, thinking a woman's feet are nice as opposed to a foot fetish, toe-sucking, toe ejaculation, etc. Just preferring dark skin is not by itself a fetish, but if she starts using "big, black..." sorts of language, it would sound like a fetish to me.
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trolling here but can that be the same for guys on the flip side.....
 
goodlove said:
yeah but how is it identified?
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I think guys can fetishize a white woman by too many "Becky" and "Snowflake" references, excessive generalizations about what "white girls" do, etc. I'm kind of taking the easy way out by saying "you know it when you see it", but you know what I mean?
 
RestlessRita said:
Your friend probably didn't mean it to be insulting, but I understand why you would be.
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Also, the girl could have said to her GF she likes dark skinned guys, but the GF took that to mean she has a fetish for dark skinned men.


IMO totally different meanings.

Preference is not the same as a fetish.

Another example of a woman being a bit shady on another female.:cool:


All initial attraction is based on some kind of 'fetish' or physical/sexual attraction.

But unless you believe the other person is ONLY the sum total of their physical attributes, most emotionally mature people move past what a person looks like and focus on who they are as people.
 
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andreboba said:
Also, the girl could have said to her GF she likes dark skinned guys, but the GF took that to mean she has a fetish for dark skinned men.


IMO totally different meanings.

Preference is not the same as a fetish.

Another example of a woman being a bit shady on another female.:cool:


All initial attraction is based on some kind of 'fetish' or physical/sexual attraction.

But unless you believe the other person is ONLY the sum total of their physical attributes, most emotional mature people move past what a person looks like and focus on who they are as people.
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Well said
 
If white women's attraction to black men is perversion, then so is white men's attraction to asian women. That's all I gotta say about that one.....

This is true.
 
biosnex said:
If white women's attraction to black men is perversion, then so is white men's attraction to asian women. That's all I gotta say about that one.....

This is true.
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Not entirely.

Notice how the quote goes from white women being attracted to black men.. then proceeds to say white men are attracted to asian women?

I live in a predominately Asian community. These Asian women are always getting into interracial relationships with white men, and white men only. The term 'Yellow Fever' gets tossed around so often when really I believe it is 'White Fever' within the Asian community.

Go to any predominately white neighborhood and see how many of the men are with Asian women. On the flip side, go to any predominately Asian neighborhood and notice how many of the women are with specifically white men.

It's like night-and-day.
 
LA said:
Not entirely.

Notice how the quote goes from white women being attracted to black men.. then proceeds to say white men are attracted to asian women?

I live in a predominately Asian community. These Asian women are always getting into interracial relationships with white men, and white men only. The term 'Yellow Fever' gets tossed around so often when really I believe it is 'White Fever' within the Asian community.

Go to any predominately white neighborhood and see how many of the men are with Asian women. On the flip side, go to any predominately Asian neighborhood and notice how many of the women are with specifically white men.

It's like night-and-day.
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That's how I see it too

Ironically, most of the white guys I've had guy talks with rarely said anything about asian women. They seemed more interested in latinas.
 
LA said:
Not entirely.

Notice how the quote goes from white women being attracted to black men.. then proceeds to say white men are attracted to asian women?

I live in a predominately Asian community. These Asian women are always getting into interracial relationships with white men, and white men only. The term 'Yellow Fever' gets tossed around so often when really I believe it is 'White Fever' within the Asian community.

Go to any predominately white neighborhood and see how many of the men are with Asian women. On the flip side, go to any predominately Asian neighborhood and notice how many of the women are with specifically white men.

It's like night-and-day.
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MilkandCoffee said:
That's how I see it too

Ironically, most of the white guys I've had guy talks with rarely said anything about asian women. They seemed more interested in latinas.
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Because when it comes to living your life its more about physical attraction and all men really need from a partner is peace. And of all the women out there culturally Asian women are raised to be way less demanding of a partner.
 
The Dark King said:
Because when it comes to living your life its more about physical attraction and all men really need from a partner is peace. And of all the women out there culturally Asian women are raised to be way less demanding of a partner.
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LOL Have you had much experience with Asian women?

Different countries, different generations, etc can be VERRRRRRRRRY different.
 
Asian women from my experience are the most demanding of their partners.
They aren't just going to get with any random dude.

An Asian woman is rarely going to date a guy she perceives as being beneath her economically or has less education.


LA brings up a good point about Asian women in that they PURSUE WM, it's not an accident that the overwhelming majority of Asian women in IR are with White guys.

Nothing wrong with that, since I think most WM in IR are with Asian women.
Just like most BM in IR are with WW.
 
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