Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

The Dark King said:
I've gotten the same dumb questions. "Does she buy you things white girls got money" "white girls love giving head they never say no" "white girls let you get away with whatever you want you lucky" and my favorite "I guess you had a bad relationship with your mama huh"
The stupidity knows no bounds, its not ignorance it's stupidity, it's 2014 this shit ain't new ir taboo any more you just have a lot of assholes who refuse to get pas their own hang ups that they apply to everyone else.

Glad to see you posting Whik :)
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Great post TDK.. in my experience my partner has been subject to as much chirping as I have been if not more.
 
The Dark King said:
What kind of "chirping" do you experience? I can only imagine you being in Boston and all.
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Well guys around here will give you the death stare and refuse to engage in conversation with you. Most aren't brazen enough to bash you to your face but if they do it becomes daddy issues, big cock whore, etc. They will then make you the subject of the most disgusting attacks among their circle of friends, and are not worried about me being close enough to hear it. I've heard disgusting things I would rather not repeat here. My girlfriends are great they just want me to be happy but sometimes when we're having wine I get asked what it's like, how big is his dick, what did your parents say. My past boyfriends have been like you in the sense that they have been friends with a lot of wm and those ones were awesome to me.
 
redheadscrgrl88 said:
Well guys around here will give you the death stare and refuse to engage in conversation with you. Most aren't brazen enough to bash you to your face but if they do it becomes daddy issues, big cock whore, etc. They will then make you the subject of the most disgusting attacks among their circle of friends, and are not worried about me being close enough to hear it. I've heard disgusting things I would rather not repeat here. My girlfriends are great they just want me to be happy but sometimes when we're having wine I get asked what it's like, how big is his dick, what did your parents say. My past boyfriends have been like you in the sense that they have been friends with a lot of wm and those ones were awesome to me.
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It's weird how some people feel comfortable enough to do that bs.
I really glad it hasn't deterred you from continuing to go after who you're most drawn to. I've known people who couldn't deal with the pressure, then again those same people weren't good dealing with any discomfort what so ever.
I'm curious how do you normally meet men?
 
The Dark King said:
It's weird how some people feel comfortable enough to do that bs.
I really glad it hasn't deterred you from continuing to go after who you're most drawn to. I've known people who couldn't deal with the pressure, then again those same people weren't good dealing with any discomfort what so ever.
I'm curious how do you normally meet men?
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Well I was in a LTR with my college bf who recently moved for work and we slowly grew apart and split.. since then i have been meeting men through friends, my gym, at clubs, even tinder, the best has been the one i met at the gym. How about you where do you meet your women?
 
redheadscrgrl88 said:
Well I was in a LTR with my college bf who recently moved for work and we slowly grew apart and split.. since then i have been meeting men through friends, my gym, at clubs, even tinder, the best has been the one i met at the gym. How about you where do you meet your women?
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The last couple of girls I went on dates with I met at the gym. The last couple of LTRs were girls I met on okcupid. Lately I've been more open to casual encounters. If you're not busy you should meet me in chat so we can talk
 
redheadscrgrl88 said:
Well guys around here will give you the death stare and refuse to engage in conversation with you. Most aren't brazen enough to bash you to your face but if they do it becomes daddy issues, big cock whore, etc. They will then make you the subject of the most disgusting attacks among their circle of friends, and are not worried about me being close enough to hear it. I've heard disgusting things I would rather not repeat here. My girlfriends are great they just want me to be happy but sometimes when we're having wine I get asked what it's like, how big is his dick, what did your parents say. My past boyfriends have been like you in the sense that they have been friends with a lot of wm and those ones were awesome to me.
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That's just a few of the reasons why I choose to stay single and far away from Boston besides the ice cold weather, which I'm not a fan of.This is coming from a born and raised Floridian with Bahamian roots.If your previous boyfriends were from anywhere around that area, that kinda explains how they had a bunch of White friends.
 
Well I can tell you while you and I are a lot alike ..I love white women and worship the ground they walk on...you as well......
 
Why can't an attraction be just that? An attraction. I've always been more attracted to black men, just like some people are attracted to blondes or redheads or brunettes. I have never thought of it as a "perversion". I have no problem stating that I am more attracted to black men. That doesn't mean I was never or could never be attracted to a man who wasn't black, it's just my general preference.
 
RestlessRita said:
Why can't an attraction be just that? An attraction. I've always been more attracted to black men, just like some people are attracted to blondes or redheads or brunettes. I have never thought of it as a "perversion". I have no problem stating that I am more attracted to black men. That doesn't mean I was never or could never be attracted to a man who wasn't black, it's just my general preference.
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I think the fetishists want to think that everyone objectifies their significant others/lovers/sexual partners in that way. I do think that at some base, subliminal level, our attractions have some socially influenced elements in them, but people can simply just be more attracted to a certain type.
 
The Dark King said:
The last couple of girls I went on dates with I met at the gym. The last couple of LTRs were girls I met on okcupid. Lately I've been more open to casual encounters. If you're not busy you should meet me in chat so we can talk
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:smt042 here you go TDK..casual encounters...
 
RestlessRita said:
Why can't an attraction be just that? An attraction. I've always been more attracted to black men, just like some people are attracted to blondes or redheads or brunettes. I have never thought of it as a "perversion". I have no problem stating that I am more attracted to black men. That doesn't mean I was never or could never be attracted to a man who wasn't black, it's just my general preference.
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Agreed! There's nothing wrong with people having preferences. One person's preference is not at all putting down another group of people. It sucks that people who choose/prefer IR dating are labelled negatively. I was interesting in dating WW back to my twentysomething years, but I avoided it because I didn't want to deal with the issues that often come with IR dating. Now, I'm proud and thankful that I no longer let other people's hangups stand in the way of my happiness.
 
whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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I only wish I could meet a lady like this..
 
whikle said:
I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks :(


Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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Ys, I can totally relate to what you are saying. My attraction to black men is just that....an attraction, like I've said before, it is no different than any other attraction one has possibly to blondes or redheads. There is nothing perverted about my attraction, and I don't understand why I am joked about it. I think it's because of the old cliche of the black man's big dick. I will admit here that while that is not always the case, IN GENERAL, I find black men to be better lovers, more sensual. I have had people ask me WHY I like black men. My answer now is simply BECAUSE I DO. I don't care what anyone thinks, black or white. I will be me and see whomever I wish for whatever reason I wish.
 
One of my friends just told me that she thinks one of her friends is interested in me. Guys with dark skin are her fetish.
I know she meant well but that annoys me. Is it only a fetish when one person is black and the other is white?
Never heard someone call it a fetish when someone likes a person with tan skin or someone with light eyes or brown hair. Smh
 
The Dark King said:
One of my friends just told me that she thinks one of her friends is interested in me. Guys with dark skin are her fetish.
I know she meant well but that annoys me. Is it only a fetish when one person is black and the other is white?
Never heard someone call it a fetish when someone likes a person with tan skin or someone with light eyes or brown hair. Smh
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Your friend probably didn't mean it to be insulting, but I understand why you would be.
 
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