Do you prefer your man to be tall or short?
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darkwawyer
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That's why they need to stop wearing those stupid assed, giant heels...looking like platformed land barges.
I've dated women who are over 6 foot tall. I'm 5-8. I could tell when it didn't matter to them and when it mattered too much. Lately, I've run into a ton of women who's stilettos are more important than a quality guy. That shows that they aren't mature in their decision making and will continue to make stupid decisions until they realized that they've fucked their lives away and the despairity kicks in.
The Dark King
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K
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darkwawyer
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I always compare everything to a pie. The more "complete" the pie, the more "whole" it is. When someone is concerned about their height it's just a very small slice. It doesn't mean that the person isn't a good person. As a matter of fact, she could have many of the slices that I require to be happy so to loose because my pie is missing the height slice...it sucks.
Have you ever dated someone and passed them up because they just, "didn't cut it" and, later on in life, you realize that person had more going on for them than the people you are currently dating?
Apparently, it gets harder as we get older. Many of us don't realize we are no longer the sexy spring chickens that we used to be. Unfortunately, we still think we deserve to be with some supermodel. (the physical aspect) People who suggest they still look 15 years younger and can date someone 20 years younger. Women who haven't seen their feet in ages, couldn't run 100yds to save their lives looking for a 6 foot dude with an 8 pack and perfect hair. Oh, who makes 7 figures. Men want to throw money at it (new car, high powered job, paying her expenses/college) think they deserve a 22 y/o college student.
Both need knocked in the head :smt021
K
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Maybe so, but I'd rather just keep moving. I feel like it's a gift when someone shows you if they are shallow, have no manners, or whatever. It isn't my job to knock them in the head.
You never know what someone's going to want. I certainly don't expect the man like you described at this point in life...but interestingly enough, sometimes they do hit me up. Go figure. Maybe they are interested in the inner being, maybe they just have some odd fetish for older, fatter, short women....you never know. I used to go out of my way to tell them they must be crazy or not REALLY interested in me - how could they be? But you know what....I don't do that any more and I figure he's a grown man and if he's diggin me - that's a good thing and maybe I should just go with it!
Of course I have passed someone up later to realize that I may have been short sighted. It's all a process and you never know what's motivating someone at any given moment. I've wanted different things at different times, just as anyone else has. I don't worry about any of that, it's too late now.
I've never had a thing about height...dated a lot of very tall men, married short men. I'm only 5'4. The only time I've been put off by height is when I come across a man who has the short man's shit going on.
darkwawyer
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I do a decent amount of online dating, especially towards the holidays. Women are wanting to go to work, holiday and "special event" parties in metro cities. In DC there are embassy and museum parties....ritzy functions where you get dressed up. They don't want to go alone (FWB/BF has her sitting the bench for his starter) and she has to be in the coolest party. It never ceases to amaze me, but they always, always, always want to take pictures even if they're going out with a stranger they never intend to see again. 1st request will be to send a pic, the 2nd will be height - "how tall are you?" On several occasions I've been told, "You're too short to take pictures with when I put my shoes on so I'll keep looking" - hahaha. I've even seen profiles on dating websites that say, "I'm 5-4 and you need to be taller than me with heels." What are you, a ride at an amusement park? One in particular I remember was 5-2...so I would have still been as tall, but she wasn't having it.
I always was perplexed about it. It's ok for you to have fake nails, spanx, fake eyelashes, pushup bra, makeup, hair extensions/wig, eye contacts, boobs, lips...nose job, but I can't get by being a few inches too short:-?
I always was perplexed about it. It's ok for you to have fake nails, spanx, fake eyelashes, pushup bra, makeup, hair extensions/wig, eye contacts, boobs, lips...nose job, but I can't get by being a few inches too short:-?
K
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Oh I know it's real. I've heard all the "must be at least 6' or even the "must be 6-2 or taller" (they just keep going up!)
But again, I would think that's a good thing that they are up front about being like that. Do you really want someone like that?
The Dark King
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Those kind of women are very insecure
You're saving yourself time and money by avoiding them
Also as someone who has dated online for nearly a decade and several long term relationships from there I gotta say you are so much better off meeting people in real life and through friends. You weed out a lot of the crazy shit especially through the latter. Online dating is way too much like shopping and people are looking for the best deal not the person best suited for them
darkwawyer
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When you travel a lot, like I do, it's hard to meet people in real life. In the last 10 years I've worked independently, with crews of men or with one butch lady when I wasn't out doing the entrepreneur thing. I have determined that I have more "associates" than friends. Friend is the term for the few who would look out for you. Associates are those people who act cool, but you only deal with them during working hours and they would never do a real favor/look out for you unless it's work related (you know the type...they always have a lame excuse). Many have suggested church, but that's the last place I'm trying to go to meet women. God can't hold that one against me :smt042 That basically leaves me to my own means.
You are correct about dealing with crazies though. The weird thing is you notice it right away when dating online. When it's a woman you've met by other means, she hides it pretty good for about 16 months :smt042
K
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Interesting.
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darkwawyer
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I have a younger cousin I used to hang with and he's like 6-3. It used to piss me off that we would always bump heads over the same women (those under 5-5).
I"m not sure if tall women are intimidating to tall men or if tall men just like to "ball up" little women?
My personal observation is that taller women are shallower (and sometimes tighter) than smaller women (bottom less)...when it comes to their vaginas. Does any other man agree, disagree or care to add their 2 cents? Maybe it's a Napoleon complex that has the shorter women saying "I know I can - I know I can (take a big one)" or maybe they get more action since lots of guys under 5-7 won't approach women over 6'?
Cherok33
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Real talk
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No matter what you say I do not make my choices based off of how tall a man is, I'm just naturally attracted to tall men. Obviously most men are going to be taller than me, that's just reality.
If I'm wearing heels, I like for my man to be taller than I am.
Not shallow. Not saying it's a requirement or one of the top priorities. Simply a preference.just like dating black men. For me it's a preference. Am I open to dating a man who isn't black? Certainly.
I am a mature woman and I make rationally sound decisions most times when selecting dating partners. Most of the time, I'm too nice and forgiving, if I have any big flaws in judging a man's character.
K
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How would that factor into so many tall men go for short women? That would make sense if it was that short women are chasing tall men. While so many guys on here talk about women going for tall men. Several of those of us who are short have said that we get approached more so by tall men. Which is something I've noticed for years.
And "take a big one"? what are you saying exactly?
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darkwawyer
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I apologize for the the X-Rated descriptiveness of this post so don't scan down if you're a church girl:smt018
Big One - Penis size. Women have lots of assumptions about what feature of a man allows them to assume the guy has a big dick. Shoe size, hand size, length of fingers...I'm sure that many assume that height is also proportional to penis size. Hell, a whale has a bigger dick than a humming bird, right?
If a tall guy feels more dominant having sex with a smaller woman, he would obviously prefer shorter women. I've never looked at "men for women" ads, but I doubt very much that tall men are specifically requesting women of a short stature....well, unless they are seeking a midget (my fishing buddy is 6-4, 270lb and all he talks about is midget porn).
I have slept with 3 women who were over 6-2. It was definitely different, but doable. Simple things like kissing were "an effort" in missionary position...or even doggystyle required frequent adjustments (or was better if I was standing and the bed furniture "helped" the act. To be honest, putting them in "the buck" (ask a black male lover if you don't know because google will not be your friend this time:smt024) was even weird because instead of having an ankle or foot as a handle/lever point...I was working with the back of the knee. Leverage and contact points are completely different. Mind you, these women were slim (130-145lbs). I can't imagine trying to "handle" a 6'-4 BBW (230-275lb). Even a smaller one. I'm pretty comfortable with my skillset, but I do hesitate when I'm changing positions with a larger women and I have had to change my game plan when dealing with or overcoming some obstacles. I can throw the kama sutra book at a 120/130lb woman...scoop her straight from missionary to flying in the air thighs above my shoulders for oral and back to the bed for more stick game. Big girl?...I'm really tackling her like an advanced math problem. We could be stuck in 3 or 4 positions the whole night....and I"m probably not going to be talking shit :smt042
My little cuz gets off on "brutalizing women" - lol. That's the best way I can describe it. He was a college football player and Ho. He told me that he never kissed women, but they lined up for him and still do. I would describe his sex style as grudge fucking - only...oh, and skull fucking (I've seen him in action). Women sometimes bleed during sex with him - no bullshit...and he chuckles about it. I guess it feeds his ego so that's why I say that perhaps tall dudes choose shorter women. It's easy for a 6', 220lb guy to manhandle a 5-4, 140lb woman. There definitely has to be a feeling of superiority in it. However, dealing with a woman his height and proportional weight might not affect him as much as it does me, but I'm sure that he's not handlin' a 260lb woman like I handle one who's 130lbs.
I have looked at lots of woman's ads and the majority of them ask for a guy taller than her (with an exaggerated height listed for her); tall, dark and handsome; at least 5-10; or over 6'. Most of those ads are from short women. I've seen ads by women who are 5-10 to 6-4 and they specifically ask for men that are taller than they are. So is it about simply having a taller guy they feel protected by; a competitive issue among females (like having a guy that spoils her vs her friends guy who rarely has extra money); a taller male as some subliminal genetic preference for birthing taller children per hunter-survivor instinct; or is it simply an assumption that a taller guy equals a bigger dick and more aggressive sex? Only a woman can answer that question.