Cheaters

[The Dark King]

Personally, I couldn't handle the side dick/pussy issue in an open relationship; however, that doesn't mean that your views on it are wrong. They are just different than mine. One of the reasons that I would have a problem with it is that you never know who you are truly getting involved with and how they may react if they become 'hooked' on you or your spouse. I've been involved in a few sex-only relationships when I was in my 20s. I was in college and just didn't want to be involved in a monogamous relationship. With the exception of one of my sex-only relationships that I was involved in, the guys ended up 'catching feelings.' I would come home to either one of them on my doorstep waiting for me because they just wanted to see me or multiple messages on my answering machine telling me that they loved me and wanted more. How do you know for sure that your one-night stand might not fall in 'love' and then try to ruin your life when your love is not reciprocated? Unfortunately, there are some crazy men and women in this world that would do anything to destroy someone's family or life if they aren't getting what they want in return. Personally, I just feel that if you are in a relationship that's happy; why would you want to chance losing everything for a few fleeting moments of pleasure.

1. Life is a series of fleeting moments. Nothing lasts forever.

2. I feel if you make guidelines clear and don't become buddy buddy with potential side ass you should be ok.

3. You can meet a crazy person anywhere and unless you're willing to lock yourself in your basement you just live with the risk.

 

[Liquid Swords]

I see your point Girlie. I've met a few guys like that and it's scary! I was completely single at the time but I see how it could be confusing in an open relationship. My sister recently had to deal with a guy like that, they slept together twice and 8 months later he's still telling everyone how in love he is with her, haha.

 

[GirlieGirl74]

1. Life is a series of fleeting moments. Nothing lasts forever.

2. I feel if you make guidelines clear and don't become buddy buddy with potential side ass you should be ok.

3. You can meet a crazy person anywhere and unless you're willing to lock yourself in your basement you just live with the risk.

1. Some things do last forever. I've witnessed too many relationships that make it until death do us part.

2. I was clear from the beginning that I didn't have time for a relationship. We never went on dates or even had dinner together, with the exception of offering them something to drink after sex. I would meet them at the door naked or in some sort of lingerie and begin to undress him when he closed the door. Then, if they asked to spend the night, I would tell them that I thought it would be better if they went home. Where did I become buddy-buddy with them?

3. True. I just have personally seen too many people get obsessive with someone they had sex with when it comes to an end, even though they weren't in a relationship.

I see your point Girlie. I've met a few guys like that and it's scary! I was completely single at the time but I see how it could be confusing in an open relationship. My sister recently had to deal with a guy like that, they slept together twice and 8 months later he's still telling everyone how in love he is with her, haha.

Sometimes, guys just really get it bad. As beautiful as you are, I'm sure that you have problems with it all the time. I remember this one guy that I was just having a good time with lose his mind when he was at my place and heard another guy call and ask me out on the answering machine. I was like 'WTF?' After a huge argument about how we weren't together and this was just for fun, I decided that it was probably for the best to just let that one go. LOL That was 13 years ago. He finally stopped calling about 3 years ago. I guess he got tired of talking to my answering machine. LOL

 

[GirlieGirl74]

I wouldn't like it if someone cheated but if they wanted to get some side dick I would be totally ok with it. The only guidelines would be they use condoms, they make me aware of every encounter before they do it for safety reasons and they are only allowed to hook up with that person no more than three times in any given year. I'm not under the impression that ill ever be all one person needs and if I love them I would like to think I could put aside my jealousy for their happiness.

Sorry, Andrae. I tried to give you rep, but was told that I had to spread it around so I thought that I would just come back and post what I was going to say.

Don't sell yourself so short. You're a good-looking, smart guy with a great personality. I think that you have a lot to offer to a woman when the time is right. Until then, just try to have as much fun as you can.

 

[The Dark King]

Sorry, Andrae. I tried to give you rep, but was told that I had to spread it around so I thought that I would just come back and post what I was going to say.

Don't sell yourself so short. You're a good-looking, smart guy with a great personality. I think that you have a lot to offer to a woman when the time is right. Until then, just try to have as much fun as you can.

Thanks GG I really appreciate the compliment sweetheart. I just have a hard time believing I could be all that a person wants for life and vice versa.

 

[GirlieGirl74]

Thanks GG I really appreciate the compliment sweetheart. I just have a hard time believing I could be all that a person wants for life and vice versa.

You're welcome, dear. I just see a lot of qualities that I think could make the right woman very happy. I just don't want you to lose sight of that. As far as the cheating thing goes, you may change your views at some point or you may find a woman that agrees with you 100%. The main thing is that you are true to yourself, and that you don't conform to someone else's ideas or beliefs. It's your life. Live it the way that you want. No coochie points lost here.

 

[The Dark King]

You're welcome, dear. I just see a lot of qualities that I think could make the right woman very happy. I just don't want you to lose sight of that. As far as the cheating thing goes, you may change your views at some point or you may find a woman that agrees with you 100%. The main thing is that you are true to yourself, and that you don't conform to someone else's ideas or beliefs. It's your life. Live it the way that you want. No coochie points lost here.

Another woman whose man needs to know I'm hating lol

 

[GirlieGirl74]

Another woman whose man needs to know I'm hating lol

You seem to have a thing for some of the Southern ladies. I think that we need to look into a relocation program for you. My firm is going to be looking to add another business partner in a couple of years.

 

[The Dark King]

You seem to have a thing for some of the Southern ladies. I think that we need to look into a relocation program for you. My firm is going to be looking to add another business partner in a couple of years.

Two years experience with a MS in Accounting from Uconn with one acturial exam passed. Resume on the way lol

 

[GirlieGirl74]

Two years experience with a MS in Accounting from Uconn with one acturial exam passed. Resume on the way lol

Send it on. Get your CPA license, and we'll start talking about a hot secretary for you.

 

[z]

If a man wants a closed relationship, I expect from him the same. Is he not willing to keep his word, as he expects from me, I don't want him any more. I lose my respect, he is not attractive anymore.

But I also know the advantages of an open relationship, they are honestly not to underestimate.

Christine- long time no post, hope mama Africa treats you well, bring me some blood diamond on the way back, lol.

 

[christine dubois]

Christine- long time no post, hope mama Africa treats you well, bring me some blood diamond on the way back, lol.

Which shape my dear?

 

[chicity]

One of the best ways to avoid "side" people from catching feelings is by respecting the opinion and gut of your main squeeze. If you've fallen for a person before, it's pretty easy to notice when someone else is doing the same thing. Trust your significant other when they say "your side is starting to fall for you", and give them "final cut" decision making. That way, you can nip that sort of thing in the bud, before anyone falls so far that they get hurt.

 

[goodlove]

LOS ANGELES, Calif. -- After much speculation, Kat Von D took her relationship with Sandra Bullock's ex, Jesse James, public on Thursday night.

"It's pretty obvious that we're dating," Kat told Access Hollywood at the opening of her Wonderland gallery in West Hollywood.

According to the reality star, their relationship is in its beginning stages.

"It's actually very new. Although, I've known Jesse for a long time, since I was 22-years-old," she explained to Access. "We've been friends forever and this is definitely something that I think we weren't expecting, and it's been great."

Access pressed, asking if their relationship was more than just casual dating.

"Are you asking me if we are a couple? It is confirmed, yes," Kat said.

Kat also talked to People about her new boyfriend, telling the mag, "Jesse is only my ninth boyfriend. I don't hang out with anybody unless I am in love."

VIEW THE PHOTOS: Divorce! Break-Ups! Hollywood's Most Famous Former Couples

When asked by People if Jesse is "The One," she said, "I believe he is, so yeah."

The heavily inked TLC star hopes the public's fascination with their new relationship fades.

"I think that it's just a shame that people are interested in something that's not so important to them," she told Access. "I think there's a lot more positive things we could focus on and I urge everybody not to buy tabloids and watch TV, but that's just me."

Inside the celebration for the tattoo artist's gallery opening, Access spotted Jesse meeting Kat's dad for the first time. The new couple chatted and posed with other guests throughout the night, appearing very happy together.

Jesse finalized his divorce from Sandra in June after he admitted to being unfaithful.

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along with other notables Tiger and the others women still flock to guys who cheat and are married but get mad at them for doing it. why should a guy be faithful when there is no repercussions

 

[Espy]

LOS ANGELES, Calif. -- After much speculation, Kat Von D took her relationship with Sandra Bullock's ex, Jesse James, public on Thursday night.

"It's pretty obvious that we're dating," Kat told Access Hollywood at the opening of her Wonderland gallery in West Hollywood.

According to the reality star, their relationship is in its beginning stages.

"It's actually very new. Although, I've known Jesse for a long time, since I was 22-years-old," she explained to Access. "We've been friends forever and this is definitely something that I think we weren't expecting, and it's been great."

Access pressed, asking if their relationship was more than just casual dating.

"Are you asking me if we are a couple? It is confirmed, yes," Kat said.

Kat also talked to People about her new boyfriend, telling the mag, "Jesse is only my ninth boyfriend. I don't hang out with anybody unless I am in love."

VIEW THE PHOTOS: Divorce! Break-Ups! Hollywood's Most Famous Former Couples

When asked by People if Jesse is "The One," she said, "I believe he is, so yeah."

The heavily inked TLC star hopes the public's fascination with their new relationship fades.

"I think that it's just a shame that people are interested in something that's not so important to them," she told Access. "I think there's a lot more positive things we could focus on and I urge everybody not to buy tabloids and watch TV, but that's just me."

Inside the celebration for the tattoo artist's gallery opening, Access spotted Jesse meeting Kat's dad for the first time. The new couple chatted and posed with other guests throughout the night, appearing very happy together.

Jesse finalized his divorce from Sandra in June after he admitted to being unfaithful.

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along with other notables Tiger and the others women still flock to guys who cheat and are married but get mad at them for doing it. why should a guy be faithful when there is no repercussions

Women don't hate cheaters, they hate the men that cheat on them specifically, or someone they care about. If he cheated on some random person who means nothing to the woman he's with now, she's not likely to care. A lot of women I know think that if a man cheats on his gf or wife, that it has nothing to do with him and everything to do with a failure on the part of the woman he's involved with. Now while I agree that sometimes that might be the case, the overwhelming majority IMO have nothing to do with what your partner is or isn't doing. What always amazes me is how shocked they are when he turns around and does the same thing to them. If he cheated before, you shouldn't be surprised when he does it to you. I think Kat needs her head examined for getting involved with Jesse James, but then from what I can tell she's never been long on smarts or common sense.

 

[goodlove]

Women don't hate cheaters, they hate the men that cheat on them specifically, or someone they care about. If he cheated on some random person who means nothing to the woman he's with now, she's not likely to care. A lot of women I know think that if a man cheats on his gf or wife, that it has nothing to do with him and everything to do with a failure on the part of the woman he's involved with. Now while I agree that sometimes that might be the case, the overwhelming majority IMO have nothing to do with what your partner is or isn't doing. What always amazes me is how shocked they are when he turns around and does the same thing to them. If he cheated before, you shouldn't be surprised when he does it to you. I think Kat needs her head examined for getting involved with Jesse James, but then from what I can tell she's never been long on smarts or common sense.

I think women like the challenge to see if they can square him up

 

[Espy]

I think women like the challenge to see if they can square him up

I don't think that's it goodlove. I think they like to believe that they would be enough to keep him from cheating, that they are somehow better than his Ex gf or wives. It's a ridiculous notion, but I find sometimes people are best left to their own illusions.

 

[goodlove]

I don't think that's it goodlove. I think they like to believe that they would be enough to keep him from cheating, that they are somehow better than his Ex gf or wives. It's a ridiculous notion, but I find sometimes people are best left to their own illusions.

that is what i mean squaring him up.

 

[Bug]

I don't think that's it goodlove. I think they like to believe that they would be enough to keep him from cheating, that they are somehow better than his Ex gf or wives. It's a ridiculous notion, but I find sometimes people are best left to their own illusions.

Very right Espy, I have a name for it ( Platinum Vagina Syndrome) a very common a widely spread issue.
I have a friend going through the stages of it right now, lol i think she's pissed with me at the moment, as i made the official diagnosis on Thurs and i think she's feeling a bit raw.

 

[FG]

LOS ANGELES, Calif. -- After much speculation, Kat Von D took her relationship with Sandra Bullock's ex, Jesse James, public on Thursday night.

"It's pretty obvious that we're dating," Kat told Access Hollywood at the opening of her Wonderland gallery in West Hollywood.

According to the reality star, their relationship is in its beginning stages.

"It's actually very new. Although, I've known Jesse for a long time, since I was 22-years-old," she explained to Access. "We've been friends forever and this is definitely something that I think we weren't expecting, and it's been great."

Access pressed, asking if their relationship was more than just casual dating.

"Are you asking me if we are a couple? It is confirmed, yes," Kat said.

Kat also talked to People about her new boyfriend, telling the mag, "Jesse is only my ninth boyfriend. I don't hang out with anybody unless I am in love."

VIEW THE PHOTOS: Divorce! Break-Ups! Hollywood's Most Famous Former Couples

When asked by People if Jesse is "The One," she said, "I believe he is, so yeah."

The heavily inked TLC star hopes the public's fascination with their new relationship fades.

"I think that it's just a shame that people are interested in something that's not so important to them," she told Access. "I think there's a lot more positive things we could focus on and I urge everybody not to buy tabloids and watch TV, but that's just me."

Inside the celebration for the tattoo artist's gallery opening, Access spotted Jesse meeting Kat's dad for the first time. The new couple chatted and posed with other guests throughout the night, appearing very happy together.

Jesse finalized his divorce from Sandra in June after he admitted to being unfaithful.

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along with other notables Tiger and the others women still flock to guys who cheat and are married but get mad at them for doing it. why should a guy be faithful when there is no repercussions

He didnt cheat on HER.


(Yet.)

Your logic is a bit off. Its not a "true offence" sort of speak until it happens to you - thats pretty much with everything in the world.



Women in general arent concerned about men that has cheated on OTHER women, they might "change them" you know.
Its not until they have been cheated on by that specific man that they "hate" that sepcific man.

No repercussions??? Of course there are. hellooooo - Tigers wife left him. That is repercussions. Most women leave their men that has cheated, that is repercussion.
Why should women that were not affected by his cheating be involved in dealing out repercussions to him - or any other cheater?? Nothing works like that. That would just be odd. Its like saying, I stole at a job, so now I cant have any job, ever.


Besides the fact that many times, you dont know you get together with a cheater - this is in the real world andnot in Hollyweird where people know your face.
Or do you suggest that we should label cheaters w a scarlet letter like in the olden days so evrybody know they are a cheater??
LOL