Well, if you make a mistake and learn nothing then it's a waste. If you learn then good mistake.
Cheaters
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Well, if you make a mistake and learn nothing then it's a waste. If you learn then good mistake.
Arwen
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Doing what you did, you did the exact opposite of what you profess since I shared something with you guys and you treated like a damn wich to burn. I know that when you say something you must expect people to formulate a judgement about that but at a certain point you should see when it's time to stop. If I expressed my judgement for every little thing I read on this forum then I'd be judge Judy.
Since you were talking about me, it's me who should decide if you crossed the line or not. You could have dropped the whole thing when you saw I was unconfrotable with it but you wanted to go on and that's crossing the line.
END OF THE STORY. SI?
The Dark King
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Dude if I made you uncomfortable that sucks but I was addressing the topic. If you can't handle people forming opinions about what you say then you shouldn't post.
Why the hell are we all so damn sensative on here. Smh
Arwen
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Well, I think that all our friends here can say that I've never had any drama in here and I always was polite and respectful.
You are very right, next time I'll pay more attention what I'm sharing and with who.
For now, I'm gonna be a wich to burn and cheat on you guys with Evgeni.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6azPcDhy-CE
Exactly. Sometimes you have to look at the context to understand the behavior. No one is saying people have to always end up agreeing with each other or condoning each other's behavior, but it's amazing what we can learn about people and ourselves when we choose to look at the bigger picture.
Bookworm616
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You weren't being honest, you were being judgmental to at least 3 people in this thread.
Judgmental and honesty are 2 completely different things.
You weren't addressing the topic. You were passing judgment on peoples' characters. You put at least 3 people on the defensive in this thread.
We aren't running for office, dude. Chill out. Let people feel comfortable sharing their stories without fear of being judged.
You're right, humans judge other humans all the time. But again, the purpose of this site is to bring people together that have a very specific interest in mind. I'll say again, don't we get judged enough in the outside world?
Don't judge peoples' actions on things that have no bearing on your life, and when someone asks you to stop talking about them or stop talking to them, then please, refrain from having the last word. Thickie clearly stated she wanted you to stop, but you didn't.
Don't judge peoples' character. Maybe that's the reason people are so "hypersensitive" around here, eh?
Ymra
New Member
We all have judged
we all do judge
We will all judge in the future.
I suppose it is simply not PC to admit it.
Ymra
New Member
Oh sorry.
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Ymra
New Member
Oh, I totally get that view point. I dont dispute peoples right to think that. Im am no-one to pass judgement.
I just happen to not want to be anywhere near someone that is in a relationship.
I was cheated on hardcore by an fiancee, and although my fury was aimed at my fiancee and not the woman - she still carry blame, absolutely. If it hadnt been her, it probably would have been someone else.
Its just that I believe if I dont want it done to me, I will not do it to someone else. As the other partner in crime in a cheating drama, you are enabling cheating and partake of the disintegration of a relationship and I just dont see that as much less horrible that the cheater. That is why I put it in the same boat. People dont have to agree. Thats just my thought.
We all done stuff we regret and we all (hopefully) learn from it.
Im no goody 2 shoes, Ive done stupid shit. I just wont repeat the same dumb stuff twice.... I hope
Now here is my crazy view that I havn't found anyone who agrees with it.
...and it is.
If you aren't married.........its not really cheating. It simply means that person was not the one for you.
Ymra
New Member
cute, but its simply just not reality. Besides Christ never said don't judge.
wtarshi
Well-Known Member
i guess its about policing ourselves and realising that accepting people for who they are is far better than passing judgement on them as it's not our place to judge.
Judge Judy. :smt036
Ymra
New Member
I'm more of a realist (not the hood version). We all judge, everyone of us. From the extreme like a man rapes a woman, we judge him. To a woman who cheats on her husband, we judge here. The the guy that who cuts us off in traffic, we judge him.
...regardless of the actions that another take we are individuals are going to "judge" "pass judgment" "derive" "appraise" decide," Much of what we say or do or judge has to do with our personalities and our own moral compass.
...who place is it to judge? Hmm....my query is, who says we can't?
Ymra
New Member
LOL...what will we be judging?
The Dark King
Well-Known Member
At what point did I keep "bothering" her when she said stop?
And I call bullshit. We all make judgements based on things that have nothing to do with us. Judgements were flying all over the place in the Tiger threads. As far as the togetherness this site promotes I'm all for it but nothing I said had anything to do with her dating bm. If I posted something about be fucking a ton of different girls a bunch of opinions would be formed so we're all subject to it in one way or another. And I was being honest about how I felt about what she was saying its not my fault that it came across to her and others as judgemental. And since I created the thread I think I'm aware of the topic Book.
I get what you guys are doing and its comendable. Stick up for your friend but I'm not holding my togue on a public forum. I didn't attack her and I wasn't rude. So...
The Dark King
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At least someone gets it