what do white women love about black men?

Tarshi said:
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OK moderator and because you are a moderator you can win. I don't care who wins or loses. I care about having the opportunity to effectively communicate with other people. If I can continue to effectively communicate more members will let me know they are in support. I don't share my words to feel superior. I receive nothing from superiority. However, so far I have made thoughtful rebuttals which members and guests can read. This makes me satisfied, Ms. Tarshi.
 
brooklynny said:
OK moderator and because you are a moderator you can win. I don't care who wins or loses. I care about having the opportunity to effectively communicate with other people. If I can continue to effectively communicate more members will let me know they are in support. I don't share my words to feel superior. I receive nothing from superiority. However, so far I have made thoughtful rebuttals which members and guests can read. This makes me satisfied, Ms. Tarshi.
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Wtf?:confused: her post had nothing to do with you. Why do you make it about you?

Never mind. I knows the answer. Carry on, it will be short.
 
FG said:
We all do. But YOUR MINE! ALL MINE! Muahahahaha
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Maniacal laugh, maniacal laugh

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brooklynny said:
OK moderator and because you are a moderator you can win. I don't care who wins or loses. I care about having the opportunity to effectively communicate with other people. If I can continue to effectively communicate more members will let me know they are in support. I don't share my words to feel superior. I receive nothing from superiority. However, so far I have made thoughtful rebuttals which members and guests can read. This makes me satisfied, Ms. Tarshi.
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Do you honestly think you're communicating effectively so far? You've been quite rude and self-righteous to this point. My point here is not to continue an argument, but rather have you possibly be a little self reflective on how you've approached people thus far. Do you feel you've been successful in getting your messages across? Judging by the reactions so far, I'd say no.

There are many highly educated people on this board who enjoy intellectual debates, but you need to treat people with respect if that's what you want in return. Anything less than that will result in bickering back and forth, as you've seen. You can't talk down to people and expect them to listen to (or care about) anything you have to say.

Just a little friendly advice which may prove beneficial if your intent is truly to have effective communication with other members here.
 
brooklynny said:
This is unacceptable. I am not the type of person who wants this kind of needlessness associated with my posts. Talk among yourselves but do not include my words into this foolishness. I do not want to read it again.
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Now, back to 'Ms. Chesbaygrl'. The "focus" of her post put emphasis on a matter that was irrelevant. It was the typical myth-loving rhetoric you would find in adult movies. She could have simply left out strange men sending her penis images. I would never romantically court such a woman!

Do not use porn language in rebuttal to me, Ma'am. "BBC" is such language and I will not engage this behavior! I am a respectful man.

There are all types of men with various body types. It would have been acceptable to address this reality and not focus on the small percentage of men with large penises. The majority of men, all kinds, live in average bodies. Mention pictures of average men who love average women because this is society... I love courting an average woman with the ability to do above average things to help herself and others in need.

"I have had men send me photos, UNSOLICITED." Why would strange men decide to send Ms. Chesbaygrl pictures of their penises? Why did these men choose you? I have suggestions but I do not think moderation would be keen on reading them.
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If you are going to make posts on this forum, expect to be quoted. It comes with the territory.

I used the term BBC on purpose - because it is a stereotype spread by the adult film industry., as you indicated, and which I believe she mentioned in an effort to say that she doesn't consider it a factor.

As for your question as to why men send me unsolicited pix - I can't answer that . I'm not a man. And don't take up your self-righteous attitude and assume you know what kind of woman I am. I've had men approach me the same way on dating sites & there's absolutely nothing about my profile that would suggest that I would find that acceptable. Sending unsolicited pictures of your genitalia is more reflective of the person sending them than receiving them.

Take some time & get to know people here before you start assigning labels.
 
RaiderLL said:
Do you honestly think you're communicating effectively so far? You've been quite rude and self-righteous to this point. My point here is not to continue an argument, but rather have you possibly be a little self reflective on how you've approached people thus far. Do you feel you've been successful in getting your messages across? Judging by the reactions so far, I'd say no.

There are many highly educated people on this board who enjoy intellectual debates, but you need to treat people with respect if that's what you want in return. Anything less than that will result in bickering back and forth, as you've seen. You can't talk down to people and expect them to listen to (or care about) anything you have to say.

Just a little friendly advice which may prove beneficial if your intent is truly to have effective communication with other members here.
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Am I rude because I do not stay in my place? That place whereas being stereotypical and using sexual humor about ones penis is the norm for "BM"? I am rude because I dare to provide thoughtful rebuttals, which shows some form of non-stereotypical awareness… I see.

Sure, if I communicate like "Black Knight" or "Black bull” and stay in my place, this would please the same individuals who consider my words rude...

Why should he dare to show some form of individuality? This is interracial dating! You can't be different. If he is different therefore I should be different as his mate. You have to joke about having a large penis to continue myths and stereotypes that the few here eat up like cornbread at Thanksgiving.

Well, I see a problem with staying in my place to make members here accept me. I rather be dislike and even hated than to fall prey to owning a collective identity.

Once again, to disagree with my words is not the same as those words being "rude". I find many threads and posts on this site disturbing yet I will never deny that person the freedom to share.

To be perceived as "self-righteous" is fine by me. At least I stand for something profound. At least I have the ability to be an individual. At least I can challenge whereas many resist and conjoin.

Ms. Raider, do not blame me if the men you date, sorry, the Black Men you date do not have the ability to think and live as individuals. Do not blame me because I do not subscribe to "the black man's guide to all things stereotypical and sexual." I am not perfect; no human being is, however, I will not be the image you want.

If an intelligent man with morals and decency scares you, perhaps, you can contact the FBI to be placed in witness protection. I see I am a criminal of just being me.

BTW, I make people think on this site. I want to make people challenge themselves and beliefs through words. I have made strangers now interested in this thread. I can take any criticism but no one (including moderation) can deny people are more active. This is not my intention however it feels good to know people are thinking.


To all have a good day.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
If you are going to make posts on this forum, expect to be quoted. It comes with the territory.

I used the term BBC on purpose - because it is a stereotype spread by the adult film industry., as you indicated, and which I believe she mentioned in an effort to say that she doesn't consider it a factor.

As for your question as to why men send me unsolicited pix - I can't answer that . I'm not a man. And don't take up your self-righteous attitude and assume you know what kind of woman I am. I've had men approach me the same way on dating sites & there's absolutely nothing about my profile that would suggest that I would find that acceptable. Sending unsolicited pictures of your genitalia is more reflective of the person sending them than receiving them.

Take some time & get to know people here before you start assigning labels.
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I have to get ready... I appreciate the words from all.

Very good rebuttal. I am impressed. You did not attack me or try to use insults. Please continue. Ill make this brief...

This is an internet forum. I don't think meeting someone here whether online or in person is a healthy thing for me. I have my picture and words on Tumblr, FB, etc but I rather stay anonymous here.

[You mentioned labels... Doesn't this site revolve around the labels placed on "interracial dating" and also the labels we place on ourselves?

Sites like this seem created out of protest because the sub-culture in society is against us. After reading words from this site, it seems more of a counter-culture. Counter-cultures are deviant yet is using labels to classify how we love, feel, relate, perceive, and communicate healthy?

I use the term, healthy very broadly.

Challenging a label such as "interracial" should not define my exclusion or inclusion into its community. <---Think about this.

Have a good day.
 
brooklynny said:
I have to get ready... I appreciate the words from all.

Very good rebuttal. I am impressed. You did not attack me or try to use insults. Please continue. Ill make this brief...

This is an internet forum. I don't think meeting someone here whether online or in person is a healthy thing for me. I have my picture and words on Tumblr, FB, etc but I rather stay anonymous here.

[You mentioned labels... Doesn't this site revolve around the labels placed on "interracial dating" and also the labels we place on ourselves?

Sites like this seem created out of protest because the sub-culture in society is against us. After reading words from this site, it seems more of a counter-culture. Counter-cultures are deviant yet is using labels to classify how we love, feel, relate, perceive, and communicate healthy?

I use the term, healthy very broadly.

Challenging a label such as "interracial" should not define my exclusion or inclusion into its community. <---Think about this.

Have a good day.
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Like I suggested, get a feel for people here. You will find I rarely, if ever, attack or insult another forum member. I try very hard to respect people, and if there are some I can't, then I don't interact with them. Simple enough. I've said it enough times: There's no reason to insult or name call on an online forum. There's time to step away, calm down and return to make my point.

Another suggestion: While you may be offended by something someone says to you, telling them how not to respond to you (as in you telling me not to use porn lingo) doesn't work as well as asking them not to speak to you in a certain manner. I know I don't like to be told what to do, especially by a stranger. But if you ask me, I'm much more likely to respect your wishes.

I don't have the time to respond to the remainder of your post. Perhaps I will come back to it at at later time.
 
onetony said:
I can relate to you,and your thoughts on IR dating,from a black man's perspective.I am so attracted to white women.It just feels so exciting to try to date them.You are attracted to what you are attracted to.
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Thanks tony, you are a man of intellectual thought and reason,
 
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