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The Reverend Dr. Robert Schuler often mentioned that quote on his church program The Hour Of Power every Sunday morning over here.
Bliss
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So agree. Many superficial, self-absorbed people in our society right now.
RaiderLL
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Sadly true. It especially frustrates me to see women behave this way. I think it's ultimately a self esteem issue in most cases...I just want to shake them and make them realize they're worth so much more than just being told they're pretty! Get off your ass and make something of yourself...looks fade, accomplishments don't!
Bookworm616
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This is very true.
2 months ago, I sent an email to two old friends about getting together sometime in the next couple of months. I had repeatedly tried to get together with them, but they were always soooooo busy. You know how it goes. So I vowed to myself that if I got a "I'm too busy" type of email that I was going to stop emailing them. As my best friend said, friendship shouldn't be that hard.
Anyway, one didn't even reply and the other one sent an email that was basically a blow-off. Now, I didn't stop being friends with them, but I stopped initiating communication, because I felt like I was doing 85% of the communication.
I didn't reply to my friend's blow-off email and I haven't heard from either of them since. I'm saddened that after 13 years, it's come to that, but I'm also feeling free. I don't need them. If they communicate with me, I'll communicate back, but I'm done doing the initiating for quite some time.
I wish more people realized this fact. It's scary how many people don't care to pay attention, when they really, really, really should be paying close attention to what our government is doing.
RaiderLL
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Absolutely understandable. IMO it comes down to chasing someone, and that's something I won't do. If they can't make an effort to be in your life, why should you keep making the effort to incorporate them in it? When a friendship becomes one-sided, it's time to back off. Sorry you're dealing with that, but I'm glad you had the confidence to deal with it like you did
Bliss
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Those last 2 are awesome, Raiders ^^^
I agree it’s a low self esteem issue in women who exhibit that type of desperate behavior.
I think seeking compliments on an causal, normal level bodes to healthy esteem and confidence, but there are sad women who repeatedly seek them, some behaving on an obnoxiously self-obsessed scale. There is nothing more pathetic than for a woman to ‘NEED” to be constantly flattered on her looks - almost like they're addicted to seeking it to determine their self-worth (thought they would never admit it)
They won’t ever be satisfied, which like you said, once their looks completely fade won't have much to show for in achievements.
I agree it’s a low self esteem issue in women who exhibit that type of desperate behavior.
I think seeking compliments on an causal, normal level bodes to healthy esteem and confidence, but there are sad women who repeatedly seek them, some behaving on an obnoxiously self-obsessed scale. There is nothing more pathetic than for a woman to ‘NEED” to be constantly flattered on her looks - almost like they're addicted to seeking it to determine their self-worth (thought they would never admit it)
They won’t ever be satisfied, which like you said, once their looks completely fade won't have much to show for in achievements.
Sadly, I just ended a friendship. I've been there for her too many times but I can't say the same for her. Her answer, when things got sticky between us, was to go silent and drop off the radar. That's happened one too many times. I finally expressed sadness at the state of things, affirmed my intention to always do her good and not harm, and then wished her much love.
It's hard to lose a friend at any age, but especially at my age because most people have their circle of friends established and aren't looking for new close friendships.
