Bookworm616
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Absolutely understandable. IMO it comes down to chasing someone, and that's something I won't do. If they can't make an effort to be in your life, why should you keep making the effort to incorporate them in it? When a friendship becomes one-sided, it's time to back off. Sorry you're dealing with that, but I'm glad you had the confidence to deal with it like you did![]()
I so agree. Friendship, as with any relationship, should be double-sided.
I just kept thinking about the relationship advice that women get about men: if the man can't make time for you in his life, he's just not that into you and you should cut your losses and move on....I just figured the same can be applied to friendships. They weren't making any time to spend together, so why should I continue trying to keep the friendships going?
Sadly, I just ended a friendship. I've been there for her too many times but I can't say the same for her. Her answer, when things got sticky between us, was to go silent and drop off the radar. That's happened one too many times. I finally expressed sadness at the state of things, affirmed my intention to always do her good and not harm, and then wished her much love.
It's hard to lose a friend at any age, but especially at my age because most people have their circle of friends established and aren't looking for new close friendships.![]()
I'm sorry you're going through that, too, Ches.
You just have to trust that not everyone is meant to be in your life forever, and this may indeed be the case with your friend.
I haven't seen my best friend from high school in years, but we still keep in touch via Facebook and text and it's like no time has passed. It's not a constant communication, but we do keep in touch. That's the way true friendship should be - no matter how much time has passed, you should be able to pick up where you left off, IMO. And we're still there for each other when our families are going through health crises and things like that.