Do you prefer your man to be tall or short?

I am sorry but this is where i wanna puke at nauseating hypocrisy with the confidence trumps everything crap. I know women who find shy but handsome and well to do men very endearing and actually go after these men because hell would freeze over before the guy approaches them. There must be some physical attraction cus i KNOW some of you here wont be giving no FUGLY mofo with mad game a snowball's chance in hell. Thats the difference between men and women here, we openly exhibit our shallowness and openly prefer pretty women and would go for pretty women before looking at a smart intelligent plain Jane.:cool:
 
RaiderLL said:
Being physically fit encourages ones confidence, so they go hand in hand IMO. Certain occupations (or the earning potential of ones occupation) has no bearing on my interest in someone. That assumption is annoying. I learned the other day that I make more than double what my guy makes, and you know how I learned that? Because HE brought it up. I'll tell you the same thing I told him...I don't give a flying fuck what my partner earns as long as he loves what he does and he can support himself each month. I've never been the type to look for a man to take care of me. I seriously question what kind of women you're accustomed to, to have developed your way of thinking with regard to women/dating.



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Raider look around doll are you every chick? Stop playing dumb. You know I'm not speaking about you specifically. Most if not damn near all women give a flying fuck about what their man makes.
 
subtlenote said:
That's just plain silly. How does "equal" mean dating other women? We tend to assess women by similar criteria too.."clingy".."needy"..."uneducated"..."fat"...etc. Ultimately aren't all of these just indicators of a person not living up to their full potential? (there are plenty of men & women who are goldiggers and who look for the wrong things, but that's a whole other discussion).
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What I meant by equal is someone who is exactly where they are. Most if not all women want to look up to their man. When I was on okcupid more women cited respect over dedication as something they wanted in a mate as far as an attribute they needed to have in order to have a long term relationship.
And please don't act like the male female ratio of gold diggers is 50:50 homie
 
RaiderLL said:
*puts on my TDK hat* And how long have you been a woman kid?

Seriously tho...you not only act like you know what women want but you flat out refuse to believe what real women tell you we find attractive. Craziness. If dude is working the drive thru because he's trying to make ends meet while in school to better himself and his future, he'd absolutely get my time and attention. If he's a lazy fucker who has no goals and is comfortable being a passenger in life, then no...he won't get more than a hello out of me. It truly is about more than what he can offer me. Any woman worth having would look for things other than money and a big dick. Just sayin.
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You know you bullshitting because this doesn't even make sense. You got get past the pleasantries to even assess his situation.
 
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RaiderLL said:
Imo no matter how specific the advice, you cant really train someone to have confidence in themselves. Honestly I think men and women lose their confidence because they over think things. Men get turned down a few times and then all of the sudden in their eyes women "only want men who are ripped with fat wallets". Ladies run into a few dickwads and all of the sudden men "only want chicks who'll spread their legs on the first date". With that negative nelly attitude, its no wonder some people have trouble meeting quality mates. People can be so self destructive sometimes. There are gorgeous, intelligent men and women everywhere...if one isn't feeling you, move the fuck onto the next!

Im not trying to argue with you...we can agree to disagree about what women want. I'll say it again though...confidence is key. As a woman, its that simple to me.
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The Dark King said:
I tell dudes cultivate your professions and interests before seeking a woman. The better you are at your job and other interests the more confident you are with women. Also keep in mind if she's willing to talk to you you're better than her and that's ok. If women truly wanted someone equal to them they'd be dating other women. That's why they want a man who taller stronger faster smarter and financially more stable than themselves.
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Agree with the both of you there. You can't train anyone to have confidence, both genders have bad experiences which could affect how much confidence they have, and it can be tricky to re-discover that. Kind of like battling depression, or anything similar... you can't tell yourself to stop being depressed and to be in a better mood, you need to make changes. Confidence, I think is the same way. (I sound cynical, comparing depression and confidence, rofl :p )

Which is when TDK's point with cultivating professions/ interests works. We can't control how we react to being treated as less than we expected and how it influences our confidence, but we can control other things which could help boost it. It doesn't train anyone to improve their confidence per se, but having gains in other parts of life has to help in some way!

(Like, I'd feel better about dating now since I actually have a job. It's not me trying to improve confidence, just the situation that influences it. I've been spoiled by the guys in DC though, the guys here seem like lames.... I'm totally going to become the crazy fish lady ;) )
 
Nikkers said:
Agree with the both of you there. You can't train anyone to have confidence, both genders have bad experiences which could affect how much confidence they have, and it can be tricky to re-discover that. Kind of like battling depression, or anything similar... you can't tell yourself to stop being depressed and to be in a better mood, you need to make changes. Confidence, I think is the same way. (I sound cynical, comparing depression and confidence, rofl :p )

Which is when TDK's point with cultivating professions/ interests works. We can't control how we react to being treated as less than we expected and how it influences our confidence, but we can control other things which could help boost it. It doesn't train anyone to improve their confidence per se, but having gains in other parts of life has to help in some way!

(Like, I'd feel better about dating now since I actually have a job. It's not me trying to improve confidence, just the situation that influences it. I've been spoiled by the guys in DC though, the guys here seem like lames.... I'm totally going to become the crazy fish lady ;) )
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You've been the crazy fish lady. :p
 
MixedCalifornian said:
Girls on dating sites get picky because of a rediculus amount of options.
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Completely OT but...nyc has tons of single females; in fact, i think it is a great city to be a single guy. Anyway, one of my female friends has been complaining for a while about being single (a while being like 8 years); so i tell her about a friend of mine, who is a great guy, a fab chef, great job etc. And she says "i'll pass," :smt071 Apparently, she has criteria that she has never told me before ("well established," "jewish," "tall,"in good shape.."). Mind you, she is nothing more than average, if that.

Sometimes it makes sense to temper expectations based on who we are heh?
 
subtlenote said:
Completely OT but...nyc has tons of single females; in fact, i think it is a great city to be a single guy. Anyway, one of my female friends has been complaining for a while about being single (a while being like 8 years); so i tell her about a friend of mine, who is a great guy, a fab chef, great job etc. And she says "i'll pass," :smt071 Apparently, she has criteria that she has never told me before ("well established," "jewish," "tall,"in good shape.."). Mind you, she is nothing more than average, if that.

Sometimes it makes sense to temper expectations based on who we are heh?
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I wonder how many people think they're a better catch than they really are.
 
subtlenote said:
Completely OT but...nyc has tons of single females; in fact, i think it is a great city to be a single guy. Anyway, one of my female friends has been complaining for a while about being single (a while being like 8 years); so i tell her about a friend of mine, who is a great guy, a fab chef, great job etc. And she says "i'll pass," :smt071 Apparently, she has criteria that she has never told me before ("well established," "jewish," "tall,"in good shape.."). Mind you, she is nothing more than average, if that.

Sometimes it makes sense to temper expectations based on who we are heh?
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Totally!!
 
The Dark King said:
Says the pretty negro in the suit with a good job. Lol you sir are hilarious. "Game" only applies in rare instances most men better be in shape with cash to play the dating game.
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So its like that in the US as well?
Girls chase after guys with lots of money to burn?
Lol and i thought that only happened in my country.Silly me:D
 
The Dark King said:
I've got a large penis a good job and a masters degree. That about sums it up lol.
I'm not saying confidence don't help but you're leaving out other key factors. A guy working the drive thru has next to no chance with yall no matter how confident he is.
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when i was on unemployment, i had more action than when i had a job... maybe it was because i had more time to focus on fun.
 
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