Cheaters

prometheus1958 said:
What is your take on the overly emotional and overly sensitive men. In what manner are they sensitive?
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I get the "you don't have enough time for me", "you never call/why don't you call?" "You're not emotionally available" stuff

At the start you hear that men want a woman who is independent and doesn't need to be in his pocket and has her own life, which is me. I then have things flipped on me and the men no longer want that
 
Tarshi said:
I get the "you don't have enough time for me", "you never call/why don't you call?" "You're not emotionally available" stuff

At the start you hear that men want a woman who is independent and doesn't need to be in his pocket and has her own life, which is me. I then have things flipped on me and the men no longer want that
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word? That's interesting because when I think about dating all I can think of is girls who definitely need a lot of attention but maybe its the age gap. Maybe as men age they start to bitch up
 
The Dark King said:
word? That's interesting because when I think about dating all I can think of is girls who definitely need a lot of attention but maybe its the age gap. Maybe as men age they start to bitch up
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The men I've come across have definitely gotten in touch with their emotions.
 
Why cheat? just leave

I'm too nasty to cheat. I would be afraid of bringing home a little "souvenir" , in which case I would hate myself even more than my woman would

Serial monogamy is the way to go
 
Tarshi said:
I get the "you don't have enough time for me", "you never call/why don't you call?" "You're not emotionally available" stuff

At the start you hear that men want a woman who is independent and doesn't need to be in his pocket and has her own life, which is me. I then have things flipped on me and the men no longer want that
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Bingo! Men want an independant woman until they get one. Then they want someone who's a little more clingy because it feeds their ego to be "needed". Fuck that. I need a man who is secure enough in himself to appreciate my independence. I want an equal, a partner...not a sugar daddy.
 
RaiderLL said:
Bingo! Men want an independant woman until they get one. Then they want someone who's a little more clingy because it feeds their ego to be "needed". Fuck that. I need a man who is secure enough in himself to appreciate my independence. I want an equal, a partner...not a sugar daddy.
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Aaaaamen lovely lips
 
RaiderLL said:
Bingo! Men want an independant woman until they get one. Then they want someone who's a little more clingy because it feeds their ego to be "needed". Fuck that. I need a man who is secure enough in himself to appreciate my independence. I want an equal, a partner...not a sugar daddy.
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What men want an independent woman? Ne-yo and Jamie Foxx? Lol, I joke, but on a serious note I know many men who prefer a self sufficient woman to an independent woman. You can't be interdependent and independent at the same time. I think a lot of people want to feel needed in a relationship. But if they are constantly singing like Carl Thomas's Emotional I can understand the annoyance. After my last relationship I came to the conclusion that I don't need a woman in my life at all. Maybe that is the conclusion you are reaching with men? Sometimes that happens. Some people are better off by themselves. Not sure if any of this applies to you just my two cents.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
What men want an independent woman? Ne-yo and Jamie Foxx? Lol, I joke, but on a serious note I know many men who prefer a self sufficient woman to an independent woman. You can't be interdependent and independent at the same time. I think a lot of people want to feel needed in a relationship. But if they are constantly singing like Carl Thomas's Emotional I can understand the annoyance. After my last relationship I came to the conclusion that I don't need a woman in my life at all. Maybe that is the conclusion you are reaching with men? Sometimes that happens. Some people are better off by themselves. Not sure if any of this applies to you just my two cents.
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I think people can make it by themselves but they aren't better off. Humans would have never made it if we all played this better off by myself mentality. Its what worries me about the future, people who just have this total aversion to personal relationships like all people in the world are like those who hurt them. I think we just need to be more honest than we ever been and be big girls and boys and not take everything so damn personal.
Yes I like having an independent woman who wants to make her own way in this world but I love having a girl who gets that I miss her and like having 15 minute conversations in the morning or more importantly someone who doesn't take it to heart when I don't always pick up her phone calls. Just communicate and people open. I know its easier said than done but it sure as hell beats this newly adopted isolationist attitude of "EVERYONE IN THE WORLD WANTS TO HURT ME"
 
luvattractivewomen said:
What men want an independent woman? Ne-yo and Jamie Foxx? Lol, I joke, but on a serious note I know many men who prefer a self sufficient woman to an independent woman. You can't be interdependent and independent at the same time. I think a lot of people want to feel needed in a relationship. But if they are constantly singing like Carl Thomas's Emotional I can understand the annoyance. After my last relationship I came to the conclusion that I don't need a woman in my life at all. Maybe that is the conclusion you are reaching with men? Sometimes that happens. Some people are better off by themselves. Not sure if any of this applies to you just my two cents.
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Excellent distinction. I used the word independant, but self sufficient is more in line with what I meant! I can certainly appreciate that people want to feel needed in a relationship, but when it gets clingy I have to back off. He starts to feel like a dependant, as opposed to a partner, at that point. I haven't written men off completely yet, but I certainly know what I want out of a relationship now. I'm completely self sufficient (born out of necessity really), but I still appreciate having a partner/companion to share my time with. We'll see. I'm in NO rush to settle down (the thought of it actually gives me palpitations lol)...and the relationship I have right now suits me fine, so we'll see :)
 
Tarshi said:
I get the "you don't have enough time for me", "you never call/why don't you call?" "You're not emotionally available" stuff
At the start you hear that men want a woman who is independent and doesn't need to be in his pocket and has her own life, which is me. I then have things flipped on me and the men no longer want that
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Ok, send those guys my way, please. Not that I want a clingy guy, but I meet all the ones who want a lot of time alone, are not affectionate, and frankly, even though they say they want a relationship, their actions prove otherwise. I'm the one thinking or saying those things.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
What men want an independent woman? Ne-yo and Jamie Foxx? Lol, I joke, but on a serious note I know many men who prefer a self sufficient woman to an independent woman. You can't be interdependent and independent at the same time. I think a lot of people want to feel needed in a relationship. But if they are constantly singing like Carl Thomas's Emotional I can understand the annoyance. After my last relationship I came to the conclusion that I don't need a woman in my life at all. Maybe that is the conclusion you are reaching with men? Sometimes that happens. Some people are better off by themselves. Not sure if any of this applies to you just my two cents.
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Not necessarily arguing with you - you know what you want/need in life. But perhaps you simply haven't met the right woman. You've likely met some delightful women - but not the one that allows you to be totally you and still everything she desires in a man. Or, maybe at this time in your life, your goals are different and you're content without a partner. That may change. And too, you just ended a relationship. That brings a whole 'nother batch of thoughts and emotions into the picture.
 
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