Cheaters

[goodlove]

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Sexless marriage......?

Ladies are u giving it up enuff

 

[K]

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/7656736

Sexless marriage......?

Ladies are u giving it up enuff

You might want to ask the men that question. I hear it over and over again from my friends who are still married....the men are "too tired", "have a headache" their wives are "trying to kill them" because they are wanting sex all the time.

 

[goodlove]

You might want to ask the men that question. I hear it over and over again from my friends who are still married....the men are "too tired", "have a headache" their wives are "trying to kill them" because they are wanting sex all the time.

Lol...u saying "dont blame us....we want that dick"

Lol

 

[K]

Lol...u saying "dont blame us....we want that dick"

Lol

It used to be said that women cheat because they are lacking emotional connection with their husbands and men cheat cause they are lacking sex. I think that's shifted and it also may depend on the age group we are talking about too. I think most people cheat because they are looking for someone else to validate them in some way.

But then, I don't cheat. If I'm at that point, I'm going to exit the relationship.

I can tell you though in being single for several years now and talking to a lot of other people, many women have some major concerns about the quantity and quality of sex. One woman I know was going on about how this and that phrase that men say are really code words for they can't get it up or aren't into sex etc.

 

[orejon4]

It used to be said that women cheat because they are lacking emotional connection with their husbands and men cheat cause they are lacking sex. I think that's shifted and it also may depend on the age group we are talking about too. I think most people cheat because they are looking for someone else to validate them in some way.

But then, I don't cheat. If I'm at that point, I'm going to exit the relationship.

I can tell you though in being single for several years now and talking to a lot of other people, many women have some major concerns about the quantity and quality of sex. One woman I know was going on about how this and that phrase that men say are really code words for they can't get it up or aren't into sex etc.

It's good that people are acknowledging that women actually have sexual desires. So often the discussion vis-a-vis women is about their emotional needs, as if they're locked into the madonna/whore dichotomy and don't actually want sex for its own sake.

 

[The Dark King]

I think some of us are naturally monogamous, but some of us naturally have more "love" to give, and sometimes we express that by cheating, because we are forced into monogamous situations against our nature. Doesn't make anyone a terrible person, or a cheater, we're just wired differently...

Before my boyfriend and I became official, he said he honestly could not be faithful... I'm everything he wants in a woman, but it'd kill him to cheat on me, as genuine as I am. Then I told him, solve that little issue, have an open relationship. Now we're just at a "don't ask, don't tell" stage. It isn't cheating, he got the "okay" from me, as long as he follows conditions we set. I trust him to follow those conditions, because he could have simply said okay to dating, then cheated without me ever knowing (we're not even in the same country!).

Some of us really just are not meant to be loyal. A guy friend of mine has two actual girlfriends, he loves them both.... they know about each other, the three of them live together, but the women have no interest in each other. Both women have their own rooms, and divide up nights with their boyfriend.

Kind of like having kids, if you have a second, third, etc... it doesn't mean you love the first one any less. With the second, love doubles. With the third, love triples, etc. Some of us only want to love one person, some of us don't.

(I do not condone cheating in any shape, in case the post seems like I'm all for cheating, lol. I support communication of needs, and respect for all involved)

Damn you are really progressive. I wonder if it's a Canadian thing.

 

[The Dark King]

I think constant nagging/fighting can cause a shift in connection and from there some type of cheating (emotional or physical)

 

[orejon4]

I think constant nagging/fighting can cause a shift in connection and from there some type of cheating (emotional or physical)

That's the worst.

 

[K]

I think constant nagging/fighting can cause a shift in connection and from there some type of cheating (emotional or physical)

Have you ever noticed too how couples that get into that seem to get on that track and just can't get off it? Same shit over and over. That and the ones who get into the insult thing. It seems inevitable that one or both will become disconnected and leave the relationship (whether physically, mentally, emotionally, completely).

 

[K]

It's good that people are acknowledging that women actually have sexual desires. So often the discussion vis-a-vis women is about their emotional needs, as if they're locked into the madonna/whore dichotomy and don't actually want sex for its own sake.

Maybe it's an age thing. IDK. Women I know are pretty clear and up front about what their sexual wants and needs are.

 

[orejon4]

Maybe it's an age thing. IDK. Women I know are pretty clear and up front about what their sexual wants and needs are.

That's a good point. An adult doesn't have time to waste playing games or denying their needs.

 

[The Dark King]

That's a good point. An adult doesn't have time to waste playing games or denying their needs.

Plus they are hip to the "magic" of monogamy. When your younger everything is an angle or a game of some sort.

 

[The Dark King]

Have you ever noticed too how couples that get into that seem to get on that track and just can't get off it? Same shit over and over. That and the ones who get into the insult thing. It seems inevitable that one or both will become disconnected and leave the relationship (whether physically, mentally, emotionally, completely).

So true, its like both sides are trying to win something that can never be won.

 

[goodlove]

That will surely foul up things

I think constant nagging/fighting can cause a shift in connection and from there some type of cheating (emotional or physical)

Have you ever noticed too how couples that get into that seem to get on that track and just can't get off it? Same shit over and over. That and the ones who get into the insult thing. It seems inevitable that one or both will become disconnected and leave the relationship (whether physically, mentally, emotionally, completely).

 

[goodlove]

It used to be said that women cheat because they are lacking emotional connection with their husbands and men cheat cause they are lacking sex. I think that's shifted and it also may depend on the age group we are talking about too. I think most people cheat because they are looking for someone else to validate them in some way.

But then, I don't cheat. If I'm at that point, I'm going to exit the relationship.

I can tell you though in being single for several years now and talking to a lot of other people, many women have some major concerns about the quantity and quality of sex. One woman I know was going on about how this and that phrase that men say are really code words for they can't get it up or aren't into sex etc.

E.D. is a beast on a man . Thats a subject no dudes wants to discuss

 

[orejon4]

Plus they are hip to the "magic" of monogamy. When you're younger everything is an angle or a game of some sort.

There must be some age at which the rose-colored glasses cease to work.

 

[K]

E.D. is a beast on a man . Thats a subject no dudes wants to discuss

Well...if it's going on, they might want to discuss it with their doc. Sometimes it's a due to meds they are on and they can be changed. Other's it's psychological issues that can be addressed too. But I don't really think it's fair to enter into a relationship and not be up front with the person you are getting involved with.

 

[Nikkers]

Damn you are really progressive. I wonder if it's a Canadian thing.

I have no idea. Maybe other Canadians will have insight

I don't think it's a Canadian thing... just love. Others can have his dick, I don't care... I have his heart. :heart:

Granted, I'm jealous other women get to have him. But it's not because he's having sex with others, it's more because they get him when I want him, and I don't even have someone to "settle" for lol.

 

[Morning Star]

That is a what the fuck beyond my mental processes.

I have no idea. Maybe other Canadians will have insight

I don't think it's a Canadian thing... just love. Others can have his dick, I don't care... I have his heart. :heart:

Granted, I'm jealous other women get to have him. But it's not because he's having sex with others, it's more because they get him when I want him, and I don't even have someone to "settle" for lol.

 

[The Dark King]

I have no idea. Maybe other Canadians will have insight

I don't think it's a Canadian thing... just love. Others can have his dick, I don't care... I have his heart. :heart:

Granted, I'm jealous other women get to have him. But it's not because he's having sex with others, it's more because they get him when I want him, and I don't even have someone to "settle" for lol.

Wow you are incredibly mature. Respect