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TheHuntress said:
Actually, a study was just released that said men get sexism from their mothers.

If they're coddled, and never forced to grow up, they have the belief that the coddling is expected behavior, and they spend their lives looking for a woman who will bend to their will because mom always did. That, along with the fact that as long as mom does everything, they will never do anything for themselves, which adds to the erroneous idea that Mom as woman will always do those things, hence women should always do those things. And because of Mom worshiping her little boy, Man-Boy thinks he should always be treated in that way, and thus has difficulties in relationships later in life.

Interesting, yes?
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I agree with this. There are so many articles about how women should not date Momma's Boys because of this....

Here are some:

http://articles.cnn.com/2008-08-21/..._mom-and-son-mutual-respect-mama?_s=PM:LIVING

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/...expect-and-when-to-put-your-foot-down-2556077

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/109_dating_girl.html
 
The Dark Knight said:
Define grown up. I think studies like this are so ridiculous since they use drastic extremes. And truth is there a lot of men and women who enjoy gender roles. There are a lot of women who want to take care of their families the way their mom did growning. My last long term gf was from Utah and enjoyed cooking and cleaning for me. I enjoyed taking care of her. It worked for us at that time in my life.
What defines being grown up? Living on your own and paying bills? Cleaning up after yourself? Making a living?
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There's a saying "if you have to ask If it's about you, then it probably is"...lol
 
Bookworm616 said:
I agree with this. There are so many articles about how women should not date Momma's Boys because of this....

Here are some:

http://articles.cnn.com/2008-08-21/..._mom-and-son-mutual-respect-mama?_s=PM:LIVING

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/...expect-and-when-to-put-your-foot-down-2556077

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/109_dating_girl.html
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Exactly. I'm on my phone or I'd link the article about the study I was referencing. Being a mamas boy to the extreme is nothing to be proud of.
 
TheHuntress said:
Well, youre the one asking what it means to be grown up. Google the study.
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You're the one asserting that you know the difference. You often make a point to discern what a man and a mama's boy is but without any context. You make insanely huge generalizations like if a man who's mother has a key to his house is co dependent but you never question the frequency of how often she actually comes over and when she does does she call.
Or the whole putting groceries in ones home for one another. My brother(who isn't hers biologically) was going for his second masters in engineering so that he could get a fellowship for a professorship Jamaica and during that time when he was literally studying 6 hours a day on top of working 8 hours a day she would put food in his house because he really didn't have the time.

My mom would do my laundry for me when I was working 72 to 80 hr work weeks just to help me out. No if my gf or my brother's wife did it for us is that coddling or is that just taking care of each other?
I know you personal issues with it that we've discussed and I think that may color your attitude about it but some parents just like doing stuff for their kids. Its called love. It doesn't mean one is incapable nor unwilling nor expecting someone else to do it. It may happen but not all the time with everyone. Have I ever come across as entitled to you? I work for mostly everything in my life nothing is handed to me. Even if I'm given a little push I'm the one flying baby.
 
The Dark Knight said:
You're the one asserting that you know the difference. You often make a point to discern what a man and a mama's boy is but without any context. You make insanely huge generalizations like if a man who's mother has a key to his house is co dependent but you never question the frequency of how often she actually comes over and when she does does she call.
Or the whole putting groceries in ones home for one another. My brother(who isn't hers biologically) was going for his second masters in engineering so that he could get a fellowship for a professorship Jamaica and during that time when he was literally studying 6 hours a day on top of working 8 hours a day she would put food in his house because he really didn't have the time.

My mom would do my laundry for me when I was working 72 to 80 hr work weeks just to help me out. No if my gf or my brother's wife did it for us is that coddling or is that just taking care of each other?
I know you personal issues with it that we've discussed and I think that may color your attitude about it but some parents just like doing stuff for their kids. Its called love. It doesn't mean one is incapable nor unwilling nor expecting someone else to do it. It may happen but not all the time with everyone. Have I ever come across as entitled to you? I work for mostly everything in my life nothing is handed to me. Even if I'm given a little push I'm the one flying baby.
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LOL. You just illustrated my point.

How's that hole you're digging yourself? Gettin' awfully deep... ;)
 
A Nor'easter? In October? Seriously?? Who's in charge of the weather? I'd like to file a complaint. :smt011
 
That's interesting actually. Wouldn't an Oedipus complex contribute to the whole notion of that finding as well?

TheHuntress said:
Actually, a study was just released that said men get sexism from their mothers.

If they're coddled, and never forced to grow up, they have the belief that the coddling is expected behavior, and they spend their lives looking for a woman who will bend to their will because mom always did. That, along with the fact that as long as mom does everything, they will never do anything for themselves, which adds to the erroneous idea that Mom as woman will always do those things, hence women should always do those things. And because of Mom worshiping her little boy, Man-Boy thinks he should always be treated in that way, and thus has difficulties in relationships later in life.

Interesting, yes?
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