what do white women love about black men?

[Tamstrong]

I'm against labels of any sort that purport to define the person. In many of the examples that you used, I don't think they are accurate at all, but rather only your view of them.

What truly is an Urkell, someone who's a nerd? What's a nerd though, someone who's well read, or is it someone who's socially inept, or is it someone who enjoys Star Trek? There's no definition that's agreed upon, so what's the point.

In the same way, I regard Tiger Woods first and foremost as an athlete, a pro golfer. Then, he's a highly regarded business man. Those are his dominant aspects.

An arrogant bodybuilder is no more a type than a arrogant whatever. It certainly isn't a dominant trait of a bodybuilder. Based on my experience most bodybuilders are athletes who enjoy competing, and most aren't arrogant.

I classify Bryant Gumbel as an intellectual type, and then a journalist.

I could go on and comment on other of your supposed types as well, but I don't see the value as I have attempted to explain why these labels have no value in viewing people because people are multi-dimensional.

In case you don't agree, I can point out any error in your comments regarding the mixing of "different types". If you recall Common, the RAPPER, who's also a poet was invited to the White House. So, it seems that rappers and presidents can mix together.

By the way, perhaps you should read, The Invisible Man, as I don't understand your comment about not wanting to be seen as a Black Man. I ALWAYS want to be seen as a Black man. My Blackness is part of my identity, history and partly responsible for my sensibilities as a person. I don't want anyone to deny me that part of myself. What is most important for me is that I'm not JUDGED because I'm Black. But, that's just my opinion.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to swirlman07 again. :smt023

Well said as always...

Thank you.

 

[Bhayes]

I'm against labels of any sort that purport to define the person. In many of the examples that you used, I don't think they are accurate at all, but rather only your view of them.

What truly is an Urkell, someone who's a nerd? What's a nerd though, someone who's well read, or is it someone who's socially inept, or is it someone who enjoys Star Trek? There's no definition that's agreed upon, so what's the point.

In the same way, I regard Tiger Woods first and foremost as an athlete, a pro golfer. Then, he's a highly regarded business man. Those are his dominant aspects.

An arrogant bodybuilder is no more a type than a arrogant whatever. It certainly isn't a dominant trait of a bodybuilder. Based on my experience most bodybuilders are athletes who enjoy competing, and most aren't arrogant.

I classify Bryant Gumbel as an intellectual type, and then a journalist.

I could go on and comment on other of your supposed types as well, but I don't see the value as I have attempted to explain why these labels have no value in viewing people because people are multi-dimensional.

In case you don't agree, I can point out any error in your comments regarding the mixing of "different types". If you recall Common, the RAPPER, who's also a poet was invited to the White House. So, it seems that rappers and presidents can mix together.

By the way, perhaps you should read, The Invisible Man, as I don't understand your comment about not wanting to be seen as a Black Man. I ALWAYS want to be seen as a Black man. My Blackness is part of my identity, history and partly responsible for my sensibilities as a person. I don't want anyone to deny me that part of myself. What is most important for me is that I'm not JUDGED because I'm Black. But, that's just my opinion.

i'm not gonna debate with you on this issue because its a complex issue. and i can respect your opinion and agree to disagree. Some of us black men who live in the big cities but who have made it out of the ghetto and achieved the dream but can see the issues for what they are, aren't always gonna agree with some one who is an "is the glass half full or half empty" type.

Common is a rapper who raps about positive issues. He is a positive rapper. but who are the rappers that make the big bucks? the gangster rappers. the rappers.

50 cent is more than just rapper, he is a multi-media phenomenon aside from being a former thug. Rick Ross, even though he is fake, is a gangster rapper too. those are the 2 big names in hip hop.

there are different types of rappers. lets accept that.

LL Cool J is a rapper who raps about sex. he is your romantic rapper actor. 50 cent and Rick Ross raps about being a gangster, pimpin ho's and selling drugs.

Nicki Minaj, Lil Kim and Trina rap about being a high class ghetto sluts.

Common is what is called a "neo soul rapper". he raps about socially conscious issues that relate to the struggle. he is your idealistic clean cut rapper that doesn't offend a maintream audience as much.

this is why he and jill scott got invited to the white house. not just because he raps. ok. lets get that correct. don't confuse who hot in the rap industry with who is politically correct.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hip_hop_soul#Hip_hop_soul_and_the_public


http://vodpod.com/watch/1659371-common-interview-on-tavis-smiley

at the end of the day. lets go with the dictionary on nerd.

what is a nerd. we all have a strerotypical idea of what a nerd is but lets get technical.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nerd

here is a classic film from the 80's.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHjRafyiaBA

 

[swirlman07]

i'm not gonna debate with you on this issue because its a complex issue. and i can respect your opinion and agree to disagree. Some of us black men who live in the big cities but who have made it out of the ghetto and achieved the dream but can see the issues for what they are, aren't always gonna agree with some one who is an "is the glass half full or half empty" type.

Common is a rapper who raps about positive issues. He is a positive rapper. but who are the rappers that make the big bucks? the gangster rappers. the rappers.

50 cent is more than just rapper, he is a multi-media phenomenon aside from being a former thug. Rick Ross, even though he is fake, is a gangster rapper too. those are the 2 big names in hip hop.

there are different types of rappers. lets accept that.

LL Cool J is a rapper who raps about sex. he is your romantic rapper actor. 50 cent and Rick Ross raps about being a gangster, pimpin ho's and selling drugs.

Nicki Minaj, Lil Kim and Trina rap about being a high class ghetto sluts.

Common is what is called a "neo soul rapper". he raps about socially conscious issues that relate to the struggle. he is your idealistic clean cut rapper that doesn't offend a maintream audience as much.

this is why he and jill scott got invited to the white house. not just because he raps. ok. lets get that correct. don't confuse who hot in the rap industry with who is politically correct.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hip_hop_soul#Hip_hop_soul_and_the_public


http://vodpod.com/watch/1659371-common-interview-on-tavis-smiley

at the end of the day. lets go with the dictionary on nerd.

what is a nerd. we all have a strerotypical idea of what a nerd is but lets get technical.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nerd

here is a classic film from the 80's.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHjRafyiaBA

I agree no debate is necessary. As far as being politically correct, let's not get it confused with all the flak that the White House got over inviting Common, who was considered politically incorrect by many people.

 

[Bhayes]

I agree no debate is necessary. As far as being politically correct, let's not get it confused with all the flak that the White House got over inviting Common, who was considered politically incorrect by many people.

sure. but don't put Common and 50 cent into the same category. they are not the same type of rapper. i doubt that 50 cent and common even party together. OK.

see my point. there are different types of rappers even. SUB CATEGORIES. which further proves my point.

 

[Avia]

i don´t love black men, i love ONE black man, my boyfriend, i don´t love him because he is black.. there are so many different people with so many different personaliy. the question should be "why do you love the black man you are with, or, why did you like the black men you have been with, or, what kind of personalities did you like that bm have/had that you have encountered"?

 

[Bhayes]

i don´t love black men, i love ONE black man, my boyfriend, i don´t love him because he is black.. there are so many different people with so many different personaliy. the question should be "why do you love the black man you are with, or, why did you like the black men you have been with, or, what kind of personalities did you like that bm have/had that you have encountered"?

 

[Avia]

haha, you are funny. you took my quote before i fixed the spelling.. i have the bad habit to type super fast- post it- and then re-read it and to edit it :smt090

 

[slydiggum]

Sexxy

Ok here, Ive dated many types of men. These are my reason i prefer black me in no paticular order.

Confidence- Ive been told im unapproachable. Ive been shy at times myself. I would look at guys , smile and get no response. Honestly, with most black guys, i just have to give one hint and they are approaching me. My case, they are more confident than most men. Also Ive NEVER heard from one i was with that im too pretty for him,not up to my level, shit like that. Love a man with confidence, most of the black men ive dated have shown this.

Physical features- One, the dark skin, just love it from head to toe!!! I put it this way, what looks better, a shiny white corvette or a shiny black corvette? I think ya know what im gettin at. Most black guys seem to have naturally athletic bodies, and i love that.Looking sexy as hell without going to the gym,lol. Combine all this with usually full lips and its something that i cant stop tasting,lol

Fun- I just have fun with black men. Dont know why nor do i care. I just find myself having more fun with black men. Whether its hanging out,partying, sex, just watching tv, cruising, etc. Just have a good time with them.

Haters- I hear people talk about black men and hear comments and get looks from people when im out in public with them. Im not singling out white men, but thats what it mostly comes from. I dont hate white men by no means. But all the hating and how some put themselves on a pedestal over others , actually makes black men more attractive to me.

Thast just some reasons, i have more , but some might be naughty,in a fun kind of way,lol. Justwanted to chime in on this topic. I could go on , but just summing it up.

The way that you presented that is sexxy to me. Thanks for your honesty and the fact that you still respectfully pass on WM. Classy and sexxy...delicious :smt077

 

[RhindaTx42]

Just joined

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

 

[The Dark King]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

Oh boy why do they even bother lol

 

[karmacoma.]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

Sexy.

 

[TreePixie]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

Small note: Some WM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some BM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some WM are hung like horses. Some BM are hung like horses.

Skin color doesn't dictate (heh - dicktate) the size of equipment, or the ability in bed. Suggesting it does could be seen as both stereotyping and racist.

 

[goodlove]

Small note: Some WM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some BM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some WM are hung like horses. Some BM are hung like horses.

Skin color doesn't dictate (heh - dicktate) the size of equipment, or the ability in bed. Suggesting it does could be seen as both stereotyping and racist.

there you go rite there . ding ding ding or maybe dingaling dingaling

 

[MissWacy]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

if thats what you have experienced then thats what you have experienced

 

[LittleBird]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

Ummmm

 

[Iggy]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

 

[Tamstrong]

Ex "caught" me in back seat of my third ever BM and it was worth it to me to substitute a great, muscled, toned, big butted lover with a super sized dick vs the old WM with nothing, but $ to provide me with and two adult kids. Gave out after pumping in a few minutes and seldom generated me having an orgasm and sure as hell no satisfaction. Yes sirs and madams the meshing of the shiny skin clasped to my whiteness and the long-lasting intimate moments far surpassed what I was used to. Two BM before this last just turned the tide for me and showed me another level available in my life. BM's only 27 and changes positions with me without ever leaving my honey pot - babies that's length!

I've never had a WM cum in me and remain seated for a while and return to a hard state, but my BMen have done that and we return to glory!!!

Small note: Some WM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some BM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some WM are hung like horses. Some BM are hung like horses.

Skin color doesn't dictate (heh - dicktate) the size of equipment, or the ability in bed. Suggesting it does could be seen as both stereotyping and racist.

Well said, Pixie. :smt023

 

[Nerdy Girl]

Small note: Some WM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some BM suck in bed. Some are absolute sex gods. Some WM are hung like horses. Some BM are hung like horses.

I don't know if I'm more troubled by the way she reduced the BM to a big dick or the WM to a wallet and sperm donor. Oy in both cases, I think.

 

[RhindaTx42]

Dude... gotta ask, if that's how you felt about him, why did you marry him and have two kids with him?

We never were intimate with the other before being married, that's why. What, are all women supposed to make an immediate decision about one's sexual needs with the future husband, before we marry him? Some choose not to have pre-marital sex with the intended spouse.

 

[TheHuntress]

We never were intimate with the other before being married, that's why. What, are all women supposed to make an immediate decision about one's sexual needs with the future husband, before we marry him? Some choose not to have pre-marital sex with the intended spouse.

Surprising you cheated on him so frequently, considering your morality on the subject of pre-martial sex. How did you justify that one, exactly?