What Type Of Person Do You Attract?

beccaomecca said:
My biological clock is ticking nearly 40 now, do you even find love at that age?
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Yes!!!! I’m in my early 50s, and I’ve never been married. I’ve been engaged a few times, but ultimately, they didn’t work out. I’ve always been career driven, which has often caused issues. Then, when I added on the title of caregiver for my elderly parents, my love life went on hold for over 10 years. There just wasn’t enough time in the day. I lost my dad a few years ago, and my mom last year. A special someone came back in my life about two months before my mom passed. Even though I was saying no to a relationship at first because of not having enough time, we renewed our friendship. Then, as my mom became sicker, I realized that he was the only one that I wanted to talk to when the days were long, and I was crazy to keep saying no to him. During those couple of months, I had fallen back in love with him all over again. I typed all this to say, love knows no time or age. We just have to be open to it when it calls.

I know your location presents challenges for you, but I hope you find the man of your dreams soon!
 
GirlieGirl74 said:
Yes!!!! I’m in my early 50s, and I’ve never been married. I’ve been engaged a few times, but ultimately, they didn’t work out. I’ve always been career driven, which has often caused issues. Then, when I added on the title of caregiver for my elderly parents, my love life went on hold for over 10 years. There just wasn’t enough time in the day. I lost my dad a few years ago, and my mom last year. A special someone came back in my life about two months before my mom passed. Even though I was saying no to a relationship at first because of not having enough time, we renewed our friendship. Then, as my mom became sicker, I realized that he was the only one that I wanted to talk to when the days were long, and I was crazy to keep saying no to him. During those couple of months, I had fallen back in love with him all over again. I typed all this to say, love knows no time or age. We just have to be open to it when it calls.

I know your location presents challenges for you, but I hope you find the man of your dreams soon!
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Naw thank you beautiful, I can see exactly why he chooses you xx I'm really sorry to hear about your parents passing, I hope you're doing ok considering. I'm glad you had him to help get you through it all. And I feel less like an alien now knowing I'm not the only one out here having never experienced marriage. And even if I never do, it's still ok xx
I'm hoping that the orange man's behaviour leads American men to land on the Australian shores lol otherwise I guess I'll end up one of those old Australian women married to a young Nigerian lollll
 
beccaomecca said:
Naw thank you beautiful, I can see exactly why he chooses you xx I'm really sorry to hear about your parents passing, I hope you're doing ok considering. I'm glad you had him to help get you through it all. And I feel less like an alien now knowing I'm not the only one out here having never experienced marriage. And even if I never do, it's still ok xx
I'm hoping that the orange man's behaviour leads American men to land on the Australian shores lol otherwise I guess I'll end up one of those old Australian women married to a young Nigerian lollll
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Thank you, sweetheart! I’m doing okay. I also lost my sister to cancer the year after my dad passed. She wasn’t just my sister. She was my best friend and cheerleader. I am who I am today because of them, and I miss them everyday.

I consider myself the lucky one in our relationship. He understands the crazy hours that I work and how important my career is to me. Also, I consider myself a strong, independent woman, and he isn’t intimidated by it. Actually, I think he’s proud of it, and I haven’t always received that support from relationships in the past. I fall a little more in love with him everyday.

You are definitely not an alien! I’ve always said that I would rather be happily single than to be miserably married. I’m sure you feel that way too. You are a beautiful woman (inside and out), and you are holding out for what you truly want. I guarantee there are some men packing their bags to not only escape america but to have a chance to be with you!
 
GirlieGirl74 said:
Thank you, sweetheart! I’m doing okay. I also lost my sister to cancer the year after my dad passed. She wasn’t just my sister. She was my best friend and cheerleader. I am who I am today because of them, and I miss them everyday.

I consider myself the lucky one in our relationship. He understands the crazy hours that I work and how important my career is to me. Also, I consider myself a strong, independent woman, and he isn’t intimidated by it. Actually, I think he’s proud of it, and I haven’t always received that support from relationships in the past. I fall a little more in love with him everyday.

You are definitely not an alien! I’ve always said that I would rather be happily single than to be miserably married. I’m sure you feel that way too. You are a beautiful woman (inside and out), and you are holding out for what you truly want. I guarantee there are some men packing their bags to not only escape america but to have a chance to be with you!
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I’m so sorry for your losses :( my mind can't wrap itself around just how unfair it is on you to lose your family like that and knowing how incredibly important they were to you. It’s amazing to hear how much love and strength you carry with you from them. Xxx no doubt that's what keeps driving the strong independent woman that you are.

It’s really beautiful that you’ve found someone who supports you so deeply, especially when it comes to your career and your independence. Do you mind me asking what you do? It's a rare and certainly special thing to have in a relationship, and it sounds like you’re in a place where you’re being truly seen and valued and loved up and down according to the song thread hahah.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I completely agree with you – I’d rather be happily single than settle for something less than what I truly want..
 
beccaomecca said:
I’m so sorry for your losses :( my mind can't wrap itself around just how unfair it is on you to lose your family like that and knowing how incredibly important they were to you. It’s amazing to hear how much love and strength you carry with you from them. Xxx no doubt that's what keeps driving the strong independent woman that you are.

It’s really beautiful that you’ve found someone who supports you so deeply, especially when it comes to your career and your independence. Do you mind me asking what you do? It's a rare and certainly special thing to have in a relationship, and it sounds like you’re in a place where you’re being truly seen and valued and loved up and down according to the song thread hahah.

Thank you so much for your kind words. I completely agree with you – I’d rather be happily single than settle for something less than what I truly want..
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Thank you, beautiful! Life isn't fair sometimes. We are a close family. I still have two siblings and a niece and nephews. Our lives are different now, but we are thankful to have had them for as long as we did. The loss we feel means that they were special and worthy of being missed. They live on in the ones they left behind. ♥️

I’m very fortunate, and I know that I am. The circumstances of how we met years ago and how we reconnected after all these years can only be described as fate. We owe a lot to this forum and to webbie (ie the webmaster.) I don’t mind you asking at all. I’m usually an open book. Lol. I’m a certified public accountant (CPA.) When he and I first met, I was the first female partner in a CPA firm. I worked a ton, and I did a lot of volunteer work in my community. Then, a firm from out-of-state wanted to buy us out. I was getting tired of the tax season hours, and my parents were having health issues. I was ready to sell. When we sold the firm, I went to work as the Chief Financial Officer (CFO) of a regional non-profit organization. I was still working a lot, but it was a rewarding job making a difference in people’s lives. While I was working there, I was approached about a job at a public university. I was ready for another challenge, so I am now in charge of financial aid and scholarships, and I’m the bursar for the university. Basically, I work more now than I ever have, but I love it. I feel like I’m making a difference in the students’ lives, and I’m helping them make their dreams come true.

A lot of men weren’t able to handle how much that I worked and volunteered. After I made partner, some of the men couldn’t handle that I made more money than them. I really don’t know what they wanted me to do. I had worked too long and too hard to give it all up for anyone. Thankfully, there are men that can handle an independent woman, and I’m blessed to have found one. That was probably a lot more than you wanted to know. Lol
 
GirlieGirl74 said:
Thank you, beautiful! Life isn't fair sometimes. We are a close family. I still have two siblings and a niece and nephews. Our lives are different now, but we are thankful to have had them for as long as we did. The loss we feel means that they were special and worthy of being missed. They live on in the ones they left behind. ♥️

I’m very fortunate, and I know that I am. The circumstances of how we met years ago and how we reconnected after all these years can only be described as fate. We owe a lot to this forum and to webbie (ie the webmaster.) I don’t mind you asking at all. I’m usually an open book. Lol. I’m a certified public accountant (CPA.) When he and I first met, I was the first female partner in a CPA firm. I worked a ton, and I did a lot of volunteer work in my community. Then, a firm from out-of-state wanted to buy us out. I was getting tired of the tax season hours, and my parents were having health issues. I was ready to sell. When we sold the firm, I went to work as the Chief Financial Officer (CFO) of a regional non-profit organization. I was still working a lot, but it was a rewarding job making a difference in people’s lives. While I was working there, I was approached about a job at a public university. I was ready for another challenge, so I am now in charge of financial aid and scholarships, and I’m the bursar for the university. Basically, I work more now than I ever have, but I love it. I feel like I’m making a difference in the students’ lives, and I’m helping them make their dreams come true.

A lot of men weren’t able to handle how much that I worked and volunteered. After I made partner, some of the men couldn’t handle that I made more money than them. I really don’t know what they wanted me to do. I had worked too long and too hard to give it all up for anyone. Thankfully, there are men that can handle an independent woman, and I’m blessed to have found one. That was probably a lot more than you wanted to know. Lol
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Kudos to you for your career and accomplishments. I can certainly respect your perspective. I had a difficult time building my career and had some major life setbacks which made it that much sweeter once I recovered some of my lost ground. My dedication to getting back to where I had been before my divorce caused me relationship difficulties in the past as well as in my marriage, but when you find someone who can appreciate and respect your view on work, it is great and definitely worth the wait. Congratulations on finding that special someone.
 
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s clear that you have a strong connection with your family, it's so important especially these days with people feeling so disconnected. I completely agree that those we lose leave a lasting impact on our lives. I've had a rough past three years losing people I was the closest to. ♥️

I also feel fortunate in my own journey. Though I question myself a lot wondering if i'll ever find my true purpose. Like you, I’ve had some interesting twists in my career... I also work at a university going on nearly 10 years.

It's inspiring to hear about your journey from being the first female partner in a CPA firm to your current role. Your commitment to your career and community service is truly commendable xx.

Though you faced your fair share of challenges, it’s really awesome to hear that you’ve found someone who supports your independence and achievements!! You both seem as sweet as eachother. And what a beautiful love story!!!

Hopefully one day you'll share a couples pic :-D
 
You know it's hard to decipher what type of person I attract, but I think above all I usually attract very strong willed, sometimes stubborn but dedicated and determined women. Definitely type A who appreciate a man who can ground them and tell them the bumpers and guard rails but largely get out of their way. I definitely get a lot of women who are a little dorky (at least in my mind) but then my friends say that I'm always attracting baddies so who knows? But I think ultimately it's women who are independent and headstrong but don't want to be so independent and headstrong with people they can let their guard down with, and that's where I come in haha
 
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