Cheaters

LillyBeth said:
I was going to say an outright YES, but it depends. To be honest my eye doesn’t roam unless I’ve had a disagreement with my BF and I start getting a taste for being single again, but once we’re back on track I’m not interested in other men. Thing is I’m really fussy and I think my BF is the best bloke for me, and I doubt anyone would turn me on as much either, so the man would have to be amazing to catch my eye. Plus I’d only want sex, nothing emotional afterwards, and that’s where it gets tricky because these days I find I need the emotional connection to be really onto sex. It only really works in my dreams where me and BF put our relationship on hold (so I’m not cheating) and somehow I manage to attract ripped, athletic, handsome black men (OK, OK, I did say “in my dreams” LOL) and get fucked senseless until I realise the grass is not greener on the other side. No, I doubt I’d cheat. OK, maybe if I was at an out of town conference with Idris Elba and he made a pass at me afterwards in the bar. Dammit, yes I would, provided I could do something about the guilty feelings when I see my BF afterwards :oops:

*Disclaimer* I've never cheated on any of my BFs and in all seriousness don't think I ever would.
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You are going round and round this scenario like you are sitting on a carousel. Would you cheat with a ripped handsome black man (your words not mine) if you know you will NEVER be caught EVER? :cool:
 
APPIAH said:
You are going round and round this scenario like you are sitting on a carousel. Would you cheat with a ripped handsome black man (your words not mine) if you know you will NEVER be caught EVER? :cool:
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LOL, I know, I'm a bit indecisive on this one. OK, if I had the opportunity with someone suitable, at the exact time my BF had pissed me off (so I had emotionally withdrawn a little from him), and I could somehow not be wracked with guilt, then yes. But in reality it wouldn't happen like that, the guilt would stop me I reckon, although this has never been tested.
 
Is this considered cheating?

while in my last relationship i had just gotten home for work and was on my balcony with a drink and a doobie. i see this pyt some what stumbling down the side walk and as she gets to the tree in from of my apt she proceeds to take her shoes off.

i make conversation with her and find out shes wasted and had an argument with her mom, she lived a short distance away but to risk her messing up her pretty feet i offered her a ride home.

once at her place she invited me in for a shot to thank me and we had some conversation. as i proceeded to leave we hugged and she started kissing my neck and grinding on me. mind you i was in a relationship for almost a year and have daughters. my first thought was how would i wont a man to handle a situation similar to this with my daughters and second what would my lady at the time think...

i am a man yes and when she ran upstairs and said she would be back i stayed for a few minutes. the next thing i hear is her asking for help in her room... that should have been my exit. i walk to her room and find her bend over the bed ass naked. she throws my fitted cap on the floor and tries taking my clothes off and i proceed to tell her about my daughters and my girlfriend but she did not care. I had to literally run out of her place with her screaming 'oh my god your not going to fuck me!'

a little background on this beauty, she was a firefighter with red hair, bmw and ducati in the garage and had it going on but the true gentle man in me couldn't bring myself to putting my penis in her.

after discussing it with my lady at the time i feel i was wrong for even going in the house and that even thought i didn't break her off some of this magic stick my actions could have been construed as cheating.
 
dWebPro said:
while in my last relationship i had just gotten home for work and was on my balcony with a drink and a doobie. i see this pyt some what stumbling down the side walk and as she gets to the tree in from of my apt she proceeds to take her shoes off.

i make conversation with her and find out shes wasted and had an argument with her mom, she lived a short distance away but to risk her messing up her pretty feet i offered her a ride home.

once at her place she invited me in for a shot to thank me and we had some conversation. as i proceeded to leave we hugged and she started kissing my neck and grinding on me. mind you i was in a relationship for almost a year and have daughters. my first thought was how would i wont a man to handle a situation similar to this with my daughters and second what would my lady at the time think...

i am a man yes and when she ran upstairs and said she would be back i stayed for a few minutes. the next thing i hear is her asking for help in her room... that should have been my exit. i walk to her room and find her bend over the bed ass naked. she throws my fitted cap on the floor and tries taking my clothes off and i proceed to tell her about my daughters and my girlfriend but she did not care. I had to literally run out of her place with her screaming 'oh my god your not going to fuck me!'

a little background on this beauty, she was a firefighter with red hair, bmw and ducati in the garage and had it going on but the true gentle man in me couldn't bring myself to putting my penis in her.

after discussing it with my lady at the time i feel i was wrong for even going in the house and that even thought i didn't break her off some of this magic stick my actions could have been construed as cheating.
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This depends on your lady..I would be proud of you (compared to what I've experienced and seen in my life- is this not more than a joke), another woman maybe sends you directly to hell and would rue the day that she met you..:smt102
 
Hookers allow some men to take some control of their sex lives. These are men, who in their married sex lives, have to do things on their wife's terms. So they feel a need to be "the Man" every once and awhile.

And some men cheat with hookers, because they are uncomfortable doing really freaky shit with the mother of their kids.
 
People always cheat for the same reason regardless of who it is their cheating with...it's because they're selfish and because they want to.
 
Tamstrong said:
People always cheat for the same reason regardless of who it is their cheating with...it's because they're selfish and because they want to.
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I once went 3 months without sex from a girlfriend. She just had a sex drive of a rock and really any sex had to be on her terms. Eventually we ended up breaking up and that was one of the major reasons for it. Initially I thought that breaking up with her for lack of sex would make me shallow. After a while, I just didn't see the point in having a sexless relationship.

In this scenario, if I were to cheat would that still make me selfish? Basically, she was unwilling to fulfill that which I consider a major component in a healthy relationship. In this case, I'd be just as likely to consider her selfish. I know there is common answer to my next question: "you should break up with the person if you're not being satisfied". For arguments sake, lets take that answer off the table. Now, I ask; if were to seek that satisfaction elsewhere, would it still be a selfish act? Am I not simply looking elsewhere to fulfill a normal human desire only due to my mate has made it unavailabubble at home?
 
jaisee said:
I once went 3 months without sex from a girlfriend. She just had a sex drive of a rock and really any sex had to be on her terms. Eventually we ended up breaking up and that was one of the major reasons for it. Initially I thought that breaking up with her for lack of sex would make me shallow. After a while, I just didn't see the point in having a sexless relationship.

In this scenario, if I were to cheat would that still make me selfish? Basically, she was unwilling to fulfill that which I consider a major component in a healthy relationship. In this case, I'd be just as likely to consider her selfish. I know there is common answer to my next question: "you should break up with the person if you're not being satisfied". For arguments sake, lets take that answer off the table. Now, I ask; if were to seek that satisfaction elsewhere, would it still be a selfish act? Am I not simply looking elsewhere to fulfill a normal human desire only due to my mate has made it unavailabubble at home?
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I'd say in that situation youre both selfish. Did you ever bring up having an open relationship?
 
The Dark Knight said:
I'd say in that situation youre both selfish. Did you ever bring up having an open relationship?
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Yeah, but only to try to get her to see things from my perspective. She was 100% against the idea. I actually disagree though. I do not think in this case both would be considered selfish.

If you don't cook at home, don't be upset when you find your lover eating elsewhere.
 
Yeah. When I was young (and even stupider) I thought that you could have relationships where the person I was faithful to was faithful back.

Then I actually had the relationships.

Yeah. Didn't work like that. Hence monogamy is not a requirement. Telling me are going to cheat is.

They still can't do it.

I gave up a while ago.
 
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