Cheaters

pettyofficerj said:
you can take the geek out of houston but you cant take houston out the geek..

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My last serious boyfriend got emotionally attached to another woman who he met online during his Iraq deployment.
Now some may say that is not cheating as there was no sex,but I do think there is such a thing as emotional infidelity,when your partner is emotionally hung up on another person and has them on their mind far more often than their actual partner,as it was the case with that guy.
It got to the point where at night he would rather cam chat and do phone calls than be in bed with me. :)
It was obvious because they had been leaving comments on one another's profile all over the place,plus when I would serve dinner for instance and walk towards his direction he would clap down the laptop.
A few times at night I woke up and head him talk to her on the phone or both of them on webcam as he had loud speakers on.

Was silly and did not end things right there and then,but better late than never :)
 
legitimate or hypocrisy


http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/5-realistic-reasons-why-women-cheat-212700926.html

1. Going Through A Transition

"If it is graduating, turning a certain age, losing a parent or advancing the relationship status, women become introspective," explains Lee. "Even if it is something she wants, such as just getting engaged or graduating, the transition can stir up an array of emotions about where her life is going or where she is in it. The discomfort of change can trigger an impulsive desire to find someone to take her focus off the change and be a diversion for what she is going through."

Related: 10 Ways To Finally Get Over Him

2. Not Feeling Adequately Celebrated

We've all been here: "May it be getting a promotion, organizing a fundraiser, or making Thanksgiving dinner for a party of 20, men often make the misstep of not complimenting their partner's achievements," Lee says. "Women seek an emotional connection that their partner notices them, is proud of their achievements, and appreciates what they do, so when they aren't getting this at home the residual effects lead to feelings of frustration, dissatisfaction, depression, and restlessness."

And that's when they could go looking for it elsewhere. "When you are living in the day to day with someone, it is challenging to step outside a situation and notice the things that do matter to someone," adds Lee "As this wears down over time, so as soon as the woman encounters someone who ignites the spark they are lacking at home, they equate it to an emotional connection and seek companionship with someone else."


3. Feeling A Relationship Ending

"When a woman feels that uneasy sense that a relationship is on the outs, by either her doing or his, she will often look to fill the void externally to soften the blow," Lee reasons for a woman's infidelity. "If she is the one considering the breakup, she may be using this tactic as a challenge to herself both testing the waters, and then gauge if she can go through with it."

4. It's Just Not Fun Anymore

...But it's too hard to pull the plug. "When you don't laugh, you don't love. Laughter is one of the key elements in a relationship that often gets overlooked," Lee explains, simply. "When stresses of day to day life become the dominant factor in a relationship, women feel unhappy. When they come across a coworker, or friend that they have a good time with, it suddenly brings to light what is missing in their own relationship and becomes tempting to act upon."

Related: 6 Times He Wants You To Take Control

5. It's Boring In The Bedroom

Men aren't the only ones who need to spice things up. "Women need to feel desired!" Lee declares. "If she is not getting any, enough, or nothing to talk about, women start to feel a sexual void. With the popularity of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey, television shows, or listening to friends talk about their fun single trysts, women have that moment when they compare their love life at home to what the rest of the world seems to be experiencing." And that's when she may start to wonder what she's missing.

"Though it is easy to pinpoint the flaws in one's sex life, it is often hard to make the changes needed to correct them," adds Lee. "This creates a temptation in women to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere with someone they don't have the baggage with and can be more uninhibited."

Now you know why women cheat. But we say, if you're thinking about cheating, just break up with the guy, before you move on to a new one.
 
goodlove said:
legitimate or hypocrisy


http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/5-realistic-reasons-why-women-cheat-212700926.html

1. Going Through A Transition

"If it is graduating, turning a certain age, losing a parent or advancing the relationship status, women become introspective," explains Lee. "Even if it is something she wants, such as just getting engaged or graduating, the transition can stir up an array of emotions about where her life is going or where she is in it. The disicomfort of change can trigger an impulsive desire to find someone to take her focus off the change and be a diversion for what she is going through."

Related: 10 Ways To Finally Get Over Him

2. Not Feeling Adequately Celebrated

We've all been here: "May it be getting a promotion, organizing a fundraiser, or making Thanksgiving dinner for a party of 20, men often make the misstep of not complimenting their partner's achievements," Lee says. "Women seek an emotional connection that their partner notices them, is proud of their achievements, and appreciates what they do, so when they aren't getting this at home the residual effects lead to feelings of frustration, dissatisfaction, depression, and restlessness."

And that's when they could go looking for it elsewhere. "When you are living in the day to day with someone, it is challenging to step outside a situation and notice the things that do matter to someone," adds Lee "As this wears down over time, so as soon as the woman encounters someone who ignites the spark they are lacking at home, they equate it to an emotional connection and seek companionship with someone else."


3. Feeling A Relationship Ending

"When a woman feels that uneasy sense that a relationship is on the outs, by either her doing or his, she will often look to fill the void externally to soften the blow," Lee reasons for a woman's infidelity. "If she is the one considering the breakup, she may be using this tactic as a challenge to herself both testing the waters, and then gauge if she can go through with it."

4. It's Just Not Fun Anymore

...But it's too hard to pull the plug. "When you don't laugh, you don't love. Laughter is one of the key elements in a relationship that often gets overlooked," Lee explains, simply. "When stresses of day to day life become the dominant factor in a relationship, women feel unhappy. When they come across a coworker, or friend that they have a good time with, it suddenly brings to light what is missing in their own relationship and becomes tempting to act upon."

Related: 6 Times He Wants You To Take Control

5. It's Boring In The Bedroom

Men aren't the only ones who need to spice things up. "Women need to feel desired!" Lee declares. "If she is not getting any, enough, or nothing to talk about, women start to feel a sexual void. With the popularity of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey, television shows, or listening to friends talk about their fun single trysts, women have that moment when they compare their love life at home to what the rest of the world seems to be experiencing." And that's when she may start to wonder what she's missing.

"Though it is easy to pinpoint the flaws in one's sex life, it is often hard to make the changes needed to correct them," adds Lee. "This creates a temptation in women to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere with someone they don't have the baggage with and can be more uninhibited."

Now you know why women cheat. But we say, if you're thinking about cheating, just break up with the guy, before you move on to a new one.
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Oh,, you mean like you guys do? :smt011
 
luvattractivewomen said:
I don't completely understand your comment. Are you saying that a woman or man should stay with someone even though they want to cheat on them?
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No, look at what I bolded. I'm saying to GL that men need to do the same thing he's asking women to do. Don't cheat - end the relationship if you feel the desire to be with someone else.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
Ok. Unfortunately, in this day at least half of the western population (both men and women) cheat. It's sad really.
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Just my opinion: I think men are more likely to cheat because its easier for them to separate sex & love/feelings. And they are less likely to feel guilty about it for the same reason.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
Just my opinion: I think men are more likely to cheat because its easier for them to separate sex & love/feelings. And they are less likely to feel guilty about it for the same reason.
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You do realize that this is a sexist statement right? And that the statistics don't actually support your belief? But, you are entitled to your opinion. This statement assumes that because I am a man I would not feel that guilty and that I don't associate sex with love and commitment which is the exact opposite of me and plenty of other men in this forum. But, as I said its your opinion so you are entitled to it. I have read that women are more prone to emotional cheating, I feel that cheating whether it is physical or emotional is the same and men and women will do it if they are selfish enough to do such things.
 
I think with the right (or wrong) set of circumstances, most people are capable of cheating. I've seen enough in my 32 years of life to seriously question if humans are really made for monogamy (I know that's not a concept that most people like to consider). In what most consider to be an "ideal world", people would break off one relationship before starting another. It's confirmed on a daily basis though that that is not real life. The reasons for cheating don't really matter IMO.
 
RaiderLL said:
I think with the right (or wrong) set of circumstances, most people are capable of cheating. I've seen enough in my 32 years of life to seriously question if humans are really made for monogamy (I know that's not a concept that most people like to consider). In what most consider to be an "ideal world", people would break off one relationship before starting another. It's confirmed on a daily basis though that that is not real life. The reasons for cheating don't really matter IMO.
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I'm not sure about most people, but a lot of people would. Our opinions are often set in the climate of western society. This doesn't necessarily apply to every country and culture. I doubt a man and a woman who haven't had water in 4 days and haven't eaten in 10 are thinking about getting laid by someone else.
 
Both my parents cheated.

My mother was first and cheated for 5 years with a family friend. She has told me that she cheated because my father wasn't there for her emotionally.

My father cheated because he found our abôut my mother. He cheated with our neighbour
 
Tarshi said:
Both my parents cheated.

My mother was first and cheated for 5 years with a family friend. She has told me that she cheated because my father wasn't there for her emotionally.

My father cheated because he found our abôut my mother. He cheated with our neighbour
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Are they still together?
 
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