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Just came back from a conference in Chicago and had a very unsettling conversation with two Indian guys, one academic and one pharma dude. They were both complaining about 'white women' not being interested in 'brown men' and then went on a rant, joking about me going to the gym with them 'volunteerily' and rhyming on stuff like 'if you date Hispanic, your parents will panic' etc. They spoke about Indian and Asian combinations as the most unfortunate, bringing ugly children to the world (I have 3 Indian-Asian marriage friends couples with children). I was crawling out of my skin.

In the, continually-sizing-up and competitive male world, the white woman's attention is the ultimate prize......Indian, Asian and middle eastern men living in this country seem to be overly concerned with asserting their masculinity. They completely dominate the women back in their home culture; but struggle to get the same lauded respect from the sophisticated western white woman.
They are also cognizant of how they might stack up in the minds of whitewomen..... in comparison to the bigger and more physical white and black native men..........To compensate, they try to impress with their intelligence, their wealth potential and their aloof humor..........
 
That's the kind of business you don't need.

That's not my decision that I have the power to make, unfortunately. Is not my company, nor is the collaboration mine. I can't refuse to do my job, do you think a huge moneymaking company gives a shit what he says, as long as they make money? All I can do is minimalize my time with him.

In the, continually-sizing-up and competitive male world, the white woman's attention is the ultimate prize......Indian, Asian and middle eastern men living in this country seem to be overly concerned with asserting their masculinity. They completely dominate the women back in their home culture; but struggle to get the same lauded respect from the sophisticated western white woman.
They are also cognizant of how they might stack up in the minds of whitewomen..... in comparison to the bigger and more physical white and black native men..........To compensate, they try to impress with their intelligence, their wealth potential and their aloof humor..........
Not funny humor tho, neither is it intelligent to sling that crap.
 
All I can do is minimalize my time with him.

...and call him on his bullshit when what he is saying is racist and has nothing to do with business. Most successful companies have it written in their bylaws that they won't tolerate such behavior.
 
Great, and thank you because I'm sure that wasn't easy. I thought you had said you couldn't do it.
With 'couldn't' I was replying to your 'not business I need'. I can't chose to not do business w him, but I can tell him what I think about racist remarks. And actually, it wasn't hard at all to say that tbh.
 
They spoke about Indian and Asian combinations as the most unfortunate, bringing ugly children to the world (I have 3 Indian-Asian marriage friends couples with children). I was crawling out of my skin.
I almost told him its not his skin but shitty attitude that keeps women away. Can't do it, he is a customer.

And actually, it wasn't hard at all to say that tbh.

Gotcha. Maybe you can see why that was unclear from your statements. Sounded like you simply bit your tongue in frustration.
What did you say to him and how did he react?
 
Gotcha. Maybe you can see why that was unclear from your statements. Sounded like you simply bit your tongue in frustration.
What did you say to him and how did he react?


I said i almost told him that its his shitty attitude that keeps women away, not that i almost told him that he was being a racist. I think it looks very clear. Lol.

I simply just said that what he said was racist and that in don't appreciate it. I have never found that hard to say if someone goes there.

He simply looked dumbfounded for a minute and apologized, he simply said 'I'm sorry' and switched the subjet and went on like nothing happened. I think the other dude looked relieved.
 
A woman in my city died earlier today... yesterday was her 64th birthday. She had Tourette's and spent most of her days on the streets (even though she had a house to go back to).

The first time I "met" her, I was 15 and she was screaming at me, calling me a whore, a slut, every name in the book. I was wearing a too-big tshirt and jeans. I never knew what she said till after we passed and my ex told me... she's scream at many, and most teenagers screamed/ cursed right back at her.

Last year, she asked me if I had change to spare for a coffee. (I was sitting at a bus stop, next to a coffee shop). I honestly had no change, was just getting home from DC and only had my bank card. She walked off... then came back with two coffees, one for me, and one for her.
She has done the same for others according to the Facebook page made for her.

It makes me think though... how some people have so little, but are so willing to share. No matter how others put her down for what she was wearing or did, she stood up against all odds, for what SHE really wanted to do.
 
A woman in my city died earlier today... yesterday was her 64th birthday. She had Tourette's and spent most of her days on the streets (even though she had a house to go back to).

The first time I "met" her, I was 15 and she was screaming at me, calling me a whore, a slut, every name in the book. I was wearing a too-big tshirt and jeans. I never knew what she said till after we passed and my ex told me... she's scream at many, and most teenagers screamed/ cursed right back at her.

Last year, she asked me if I had change to spare for a coffee. (I was sitting at a bus stop, next to a coffee shop). I honestly had no change, was just getting home from DC and only had my bank card. She walked off... then came back with two coffees, one for me, and one for her.
She has done the same for others according to the Facebook page made for her.

It makes me think though... how some people have so little, but are so willing to share. No matter how others put her down for what she was wearing or did, she stood up against all odds, for what SHE really wanted to do.

So touching. Tourette's Syndrome is one of those awful conditions people have that is not easily tolerated by society. Just like mental illness. We've made some strides but have a long way to go. Most people do not understand these diseases and probably fear them. Mental disorders are difficult because they are not plain to SEE.
Anyway, it's nice to know there are sensitive people such as yourself out there.
 
Is it me or does it feel like another generation of members is all together abandoning the forum………WTF…..
 
Is it me or does it feel like another generation of members is all together abandoning the forum………WTF…..

I was wondering the same thing. Either I'm not looking on the right threads, or this place is dead right now.

Where is everyone? I'm bored!! LOL.
 
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Can you say God-gifted talent? That man...wow. Amazing! I have always LOVED John Legend, but a true fan must see him in person to truly appreciate his raw talent. And FINE! Snapped a few photos, but you can't really see clearly. These two are my favs...

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Tamar was good too...
 
Just came back from a conference in Chicago and had a very unsettling conversation with two Indian guys, one academic and one pharma dude. They were both complaining about 'white women' not being interested in 'brown men' and then went on a rant, joking about me going to the gym with them 'volunteerily' and rhyming on stuff like 'if you date Hispanic, your parents will panic' etc. They spoke about Indian and Asian combinations as the most unfortunate, bringing ugly children to the world (I have 3 Indian-Asian marriage friends couples with children). I was crawling out of my skin.

Looks like I revisited a few days to late. Let me know when your coming in again. I can't let a fellow wwbmer visit my city with a drink on me.
 
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