Cheaters

disposableheroine said:
I think people are just jaded about marriage anymore. But it's my belief that if someone wants to have a happy, healthy, lifetime marriage it's best to ignore statistics anyhow and focus more on working to keep the marriage good.
Click to expand...

On this we can agree 100%.
 
Ok Athena, I'll bite.

I was in highschool at the time, I think I was 16. I was supposed to tan after school (for prom) and my best friend right after me. She had something going on so her and I switched times. Well since I had a half hour to waste, I stopped by my boyfriends house (lived about a mile from the tanning place).

Low and behold, he had another girl in the house with him. I knocked on the door, which was locked. Where I'm from no one locks their doors, so I was instantly suspicious. Then, I saw the girl sitting on his computer playing a game of solitare lol Didn't try and hide her or anything.
 
Athena said:
Any new input on this topic? I know many have experienced it......
Click to expand...

sure, Ill share...

In Sweden, my live in boyfriend of 9 years and fiancee of 1 year:
Caught them in our bed, yes, you heard that right.
Needless to say - they were both put out on their asses STAT.

In highschool I had a boyfriend that unfortunately rolled his Jeep and died...
At the funeral, I was not the only sobbing girlfriend.....
I have to laugh about it now, not that he died, that is sad, but looking back it was kinda comic with two sobbing grilfriend that did not know about the other....
 
Last edited:
we was using his pc toghter and he stored naked pics of HER in our vacation folder.
So I was looking one day for our pictures from all the places where we have been togher and suddenly I saw a pic of a naked women in his new Bedroom ( place where he moved when we was already toghter a few years). Next Picture:he being naked and holding his dick to the cam.

His excuse:
Picture 1 = I have no Idea who that woman is!!Maybe it is my friends girlfriend, who has the key of this appartment and must have take the pictures there and then stored them in my computer with out letting me know! (I don´t understand why u don´t believe me)
Picture 2 =And what is wrong taking a naked picture of myself!!

:smt102
 
Flyingeek said:
sure, Ill share...

In Sweden, my live in boyfriend of 9 years and fiancee of 1 year:
Caught them in our bed, yes, you heard that right.
Needless to say - they were both put out on their asses STAT.

In highschool I had a boyfriend that unfortunately rolled his Jeep and died...
At the funeral, I was not the only sobbing girlfriend.....
I have to laugh about it now, not that he died, that is sad, but looking back it was kinda comic with two sobbing grilfriend that did not know about the other....
Click to expand...

Holy Crap! Brutal on both counts!!!!!! It's so tempting to go all Lorena Bobbit on them isn't it? (oops that was my outside voice)
 
Every men I had a relationship with cheated on me. Situations to find out? Either phone calls, or one of his friends told me, or paid plane tickets on the credit card bill,or pics,.. whatever..

From that, let´s say, I work with around 50 married men, only 2 of them I know that they would never cheat.. The rest told me or I saw with my own eyes that they had ONS or affairs..

BTW, these men are of all races and nationalities..
 
christine dubois said:
Every men I had a relationship with cheated on me. Situations to find out? Either phone calls, or one of his friends told me, or paid plane tickets on the credit card bill,or pics,.. whatever..

From that, let´s say, I work with around 50 married men, only 2 of them I know that they would never cheat.. The rest told me or I saw with my own eyes that they had ONS or affairs..

BTW, these men are of all races and nationalities..
Click to expand...


Yeah I have often white guys telling me that black guys are cheaters... especialy the husband of my best friend.
Well yes he got caught leaving the whorehouse.
His Excuse.... " I was only drinking a beer there!" And i cannot help, my friend is believing it.......
 
My mom. Sneaking my ex-step-dad into her bedroom n' shit when my parents were separated. Ew, man. Fuck outta here.
 
Nouharel said:
we was using his pc toghter and he stored naked pics of HER in our vacation folder.
So I was looking one day for our pictures from all the places where we have been togher and suddenly I saw a pic of a naked women in his new Bedroom ( place where he moved when we was already toghter a few years). Next Picture:he being naked and holding his dick to the cam.

His excuse:
Picture 1 = I have no Idea who that woman is!!Maybe it is my friends girlfriend, who has the key of this appartment and must have take the pictures there and then stored them in my computer with out letting me know! (I don´t understand why u don´t believe me)
Picture 2 =And what is wrong taking a naked picture of myself!!

:smt102
Click to expand...

LOL - sorry this is too funny - I mean his side of the story! He was caught red-handed with dick in his hand (sorry!) and he is still denying it! I bet that with an innocent face as well!!! that's what I find pathetic!

I was cheated on by my now-ex-husband: he was inviting escort girls to our place while I was at work. Yes, really! I found an email from him requesting their services and requiring information how much services of this or that girl cost. Then he was 'ordering' one of the girls to come in to our address for an 'afternoon appointment'. HA HA HA :) I am laughing now, but I didn't laugh when I found those emilas, believe me! And the stupid thing was: they were in his Outlook account which was without password and we both used it for our business. Couldn't he at least use his PRIVATE yahoo account for that???

I've moved on now, I understand its him, not me and that apparently he applied to 'escort services' before meetimg me a lot and getting married doesn't mean you have to change your habits (in his shallow opinion)... The only thing that amazes me: he still denied it (although I had prove in writing)...
:smt120
 
justanotherbrothalover said:
Fuck men sometimes make me want to be a bitter old spinster dyke!!! Does sex with a dick feel THAT fantastic that they just can not resist it??? :confused:
Click to expand...

JABL, in my opinion it really comes down to character, integrity and biology. We know that testosterone is the hormone that creates sex drive in men and women. The average man has somewhere between 20 to 70 times higher levels of testosterone than the average woman, http://www.abc.net.au/science/slab/testost/story.htm, some studies suggest it may be closer to 400 times as high.

Thus by nature's (or a higher power, if you are so inclined) design, on average men have a MUCH MUCH MUCH higher need, desire, craving for sex and risky behavior than the average woman. I don't think that many women really and truly understand this huge difference between the sexes. I once heard a comedian put it best, he said "all the ladies in the audience, close your eyes and think back to the moment in your life when you were most sexually aroused, just out of your mind with passion and pure carnal lust, capture that moment in your head....understand that is how the average man is when he is NOT EVEN THINKING about sex.

Now this is where character and integrity come in, in order to keep such high levels of testosterone in check, a man has to wage a constant battle to keep his thinking done in the brain and not the crotch. The average man gets between 3 to 5 erections IN HIS SLEEP, he does not even have to be fantasizing about sex, http://www.pamf.org/health/healthinfo/index.cfm?A=C&hwid=hw231151, that is how powerful testosterone is in the male body.

This is why I feel very strongly that it is much easier for a man (father, grandfather, family member, family friend) to relate to and guide a young man going through puberty and help him understand how to deal with all the hormones, and build character, integrity and understanding of how to deal with it, channel that energy to a more positive outlet, and conduct himself as a gentlemen when interacting with women.

Anyway, long winded explanation that it is not just as simple as sex with a penis feeling so good that men just can't help themselves. Hope this helped.
 
Good can come of it

I was the big man on campus, good student, great athlete, had my pick of females, but one day, for some reason I decided I might want to be a one women dude. So I stopped messin around behind my then girlfriends back. I had grown up with this girl, she always loved me from our first kiss in kindergarten. But it was to late for me, by the time I started to fly right, she cheated 10x worse than I ever did, with might I add, more people in quite significantly shorter time period. It led me to date my first white girl, whom I never cheated on, and I may marry if some things go right for myself. In my eyes, cheating was a godsend.
 
Last edited:
sometimes things happen for a "reason"....
If we only can heal ourselves from this sort of treatment and not punish a new love for what someone else has done to us.. then it may serve as a good teaching tool moving forward.......
Unfortunately, some people may never fully recover.. it took me YEARS before I allowed someone in again. Now Im pretty darn thankful acctually - I could have been married to that sorry excuse for a man....
 
Flyingeek said:
sometimes things happen for a "reason"....
If we only can heal ourselves from this sort of treatment and not punish a new love for what someone else has done to us.. then it may serve as a good teaching tool moving forward.......
Unfortunately, some people may never fully recover.. it took me YEARS before I allowed someone in again. Now Im pretty darn thankful acctually - I could have been married to that sorry excuse for a man....
Click to expand...

well that man was obviously a tosspot FG...!!!!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom