Cheaters

chesbaygrl7 said:
While you're in a relationship???
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I'm more of the "situationship" type of guy, lol. I don't do well in relationships. I'm not affectionate AT ALL. And most women can't deal with that, even when I tell them in the beginning. They all think "I just haven't found the right woman yet"
 
IamMe said:
I'm more of the "situationship" type of guy, lol. I don't do well in relationships. I'm not affectionate AT ALL. And most women can't deal with that, even when I tell them in the beginning. They all think "I just haven't found the right woman yet"
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In your situationships, is the woman aware that it's not a relationship?
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
In your situationships, is the woman aware that it's not a relationship?
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I don't play those games...my intentions are made clear from the gate. But I don't think anybody goes from nothing to full blown relationship status in the beginning. But if it's apparent over the course of time that she is leaning towards a relationship, and I'm not feeling it like that, believe you me, I let it be known. Jay doesn't have a problem with speaking exactly what's on his mind.
 
IamMe said:
I don't play those games...my intentions are made clear from the gate. But I don't think anybody goes from nothing to full blown relationship status in the beginning. But if it's apparent over the course of time that she is leaning towards a relationship, and I'm not feeling it like that, believe you me, I let it be known. Jay doesn't have a problem with speaking exactly what's on his mind.
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That's what I was getting at. If you're not exclusive, your "sampling" is not cheating. But if she believes the two of you are exclusive or committed, then she would see it as such.
 
IamMe said:
I don't play those games...my intentions are made clear from the gate. But I don't think anybody goes from nothing to full blown relationship status in the beginning. But if it's apparent over the course of time that she is leaning towards a relationship, and I'm not feeling it like that, believe you me, I let it be known. Jay doesn't have a problem with speaking exactly what's on his mind.
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Yes yes yes. You sir know what's up. I deal with situationships (I might have to steal that btw) the exact same way. If it goes past my level of comfort, and we're no longer on the same page, I speak up. If he can't handle where I'm at, I'm out. No need to play games, I'm honest and up front at all times.

IamMe said:
Some people don't know how to be single bruh.
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Real fucking talk right there. I see it every day with some people.
 
RaiderLL said:
Real fucking talk right there. I see it every day with some people.
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That's how you get some women that would rather be with a man that beats her ass all the time rather than be single. Or a guy that stays with a chick that sleeps with his friends. You know...the Jerry/Maury cases.
 
SexyBaltimorean said:
the truth of the matter is that I have friends (male & female) that cheat equally. It has nothing to so with the sex of te person. Many women go into a relationship knowing they're going to cheat..........just like guys.
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True. My point to GL was, and maybe you are just emphasizing it, is that men need to do the same thing (end the relationship rather than cheating). I can honestly say I'm not aware of any women (except one relative long ago) who have cheated or are cheating, but I am currently aware of several men who have recently cheated/are cheating and they are quite nonchalant about it. Like it's the nature of the beat. Just my experience.
 
RaiderLL said:
Lmao you wanna bring out the big guns?! I was jacking with love!! :smt061
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But seriously, situationship is the best way I can describe it. We're together, but nothing is obligatory or compulsory. It's more than FWBs but not quite a full blown relationship.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
True. My point to GL was, and maybe you are just emphasizing it, is that men need to do the same thing (end the relationship rather than cheating). I can honestly say I'm not aware of any women (except one relative long ago) who have cheated or are cheating, but I am currently aware of several men who have recently cheated/are cheating and they are quite nonchalant about it. Like it's the nature of the beat. Just my experience.
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Probably because of the stigma associate with a woman "getting around"; so you may have not been aware of it. But the shit happens equally on each end of the spectrum.
 
IamMe said:
That's how you get some women that would rather be with a man that beats her ass all the time rather than be single. Or a guy that stays with a chick that sleeps with his friends. You know...the Jerry/Maury cases.
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I've found that most often it's people who aren't comfortable in their own skin. They don't value themselves enough to understand that they don't need a partner in their life to be "whole". It's very sad because you're right...they settle for abusive relationships sometimes instead of dealing with being alone.

IamMe said:
But seriously, situationship is the best way I can describe it. We're together, but nothing is obligatory or compulsory. It's more than FWBs but not quite a full blown relationship.
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I feel you completely love. Unfortunately some people are looking for the full blown relationship from the get go. Where I'm at in my life right now, that's not necessarily what I'm looking for. So...up front and honest I am :)
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
Not necessarily arguing with you - you know what you want/need in life. But perhaps you simply haven't met the right woman. You've likely met some delightful women - but not the one that allows you to be totally you and still everything she desires in a man. Or, maybe at this time in your life, your goals are different and you're content without a partner. That may change. And too, you just ended a relationship. That brings a whole 'nother batch of thoughts and emotions into the picture.
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Nope, don't need a woman.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
True. My point to GL was, and maybe you are just emphasizing it, is that men need to do the same thing (end the relationship rather than cheating). I can honestly say I'm not aware of any women (except one relative long ago) who have cheated or are cheating, but I am currently aware of several men who have recently cheated/are cheating and they are quite nonchalant about it. Like it's the nature of the beat. Just my experience.
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I think if you were a man you might know of more women who cheat.
 
The Dark King said:
You motheefuckas paint some bleak ass pictures lol.
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Trust me, when you get hit up right and left by people who are married, it quickly becomes crystal clear that we are not a society geared towards monogamy. It is what it is. I'm sure there are happily married people out there, but I'm also sure there are people who think they're happily married, while in reality their husbands are out coming strong at me in their free time. It's interesting to say the least.
 
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