Women closer to my age are the worst ones since they are generally husband shopping more so than looking for a husband. I've often said magic dies with age. Im not saying every single instance and in every relationship that my assertions are true but in enough to see that many people will over look a possible mate based on ridiculous bs. The US as a whole is very immature its seen in our entertainment our politics and in the way we do business. So its not a far reach to say that women of a more socially conscious more educated more healthy culture would be more open and a better match for men who date outside their supposed race.
A great example of that for me was when I posted that thread about, Dating In The Dark". The women from the UK seemed genuinely excited about dating bm in comparison to the US version where it was not even an option despite having far more in common with the bm.It always cracks me up when people claim that people generally prefer people of their own "race" which seems to happen far more here in the great melting pot more so than in countries with far less black people.
Too many are in staunch denial of the impact that racism has had on this country's cultural norm and that spills over into dating choices. You personally may not be that way but you use the same blanketed statements when you assert women of a certain age aren't a certain way or aren't hung up on race when that's clearly our legacy here.
I wouldn’t call it immature.. It’s different. For me, as an European woman, the american way of life, is hard. You live without a social net, what afraids a lot of people and creates a big competition- that’s how I see it.
I cannot talk for all European countries, but for the countries I lived in. Germany and Switzerland. Our political climate us social, sharing. We have to look that all citizens can live in conditions fit for human beings. It decreases crimal activities , hate of different nationalities or ethnic groups. We try to integrate, not to separate and -to support. Just a few examples:
Support:
-everybody has a health assurance
-if you are jobless, you get an appartment and one or two yrs 80% of your salary, afterwards you get social help, the amount belongs on your personal situation
-if a woman is pregnant, she stopps working in her 8th month, gets money for 7 months (full salary) and has the right to get back her job, within 3 yrs later
-you get automatically monthly money for your kids (between 220-310 US Dollar/each)
and and and....
This prevents that people are in such a panic and that they can be generous in thinking.
The second point ist integration i.e.:
-A foreigner gets a free of costs school to learn the language
-You receive an education to get a good job sometimes, so that you can pay taxes later, instead of living on our all costs
-statistics of ethnic groups are forbidden
and and and...
It’s not perfect, a lot of people abuse this social system, but it
teaches to see humanity instead of money. And that I assume has its influence in many ways. Europeans are not in general better in any way, we just live a safer way
